I-CHALLENGE-U-2-A-DATE!!!
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| Fri, 08-10-2007 - 9:34am |
Ok, to get a date, you have to figure out where to find them!
So I have a challenge for you! For you ladies that are seeking a date or wanting to just get to know someone, I challenge you to find ONE guy this weekend that you can find as a potential future date. This means a little flirt of any sort, a smile, chatting him up, whatever works for you. Update on Monday and let's see how everyone did. So lurkers, de-lurk and let's see what happens. Women (maybe your just discouraged) who say they really dont' feel like dating right now, just give it a whirl......
Ok, so where to find them:
1. Church or temple
2. Batting Cages
3. The U.S. Opens (golf and tennis)
4. Baseball games
5. Major sporting events ranging from super bowl to local sports
6. Sports bar
7. Cigar bars
8. Sporting goods stores
9. Music Festivals
10. Concerts
11. Art Galleries (believe it or not)
12. Car shows
13. Golf courses
14. Your office (but I don't advice it)
15. Clubs
16. The bars of trendy restaurants
17. The park
18. The dog run
19. The gym
21. Habitat for Humanity or other Philanthropic groups
22. Political campaigns or organizations
23. Auto racing events
24. Airplanes
25. Bookstores
26. Tennis Courts
27. Shooting range
28. Coffee shops
29. Lacrosse, hockey and soccer games
30. Hardware stores
And of course, but let's refrain from: The internet
Reminder their are 100 million singles in the US alone. 44% of the population. Half of them are men.
I want you to say a few things to yourself several times the day (starting today and continuing) but definitely keep it in mind when you are ready to get out and meet someone:
* I have a lot of love to give
* Any guy would be lucky to have me
* I am charming and entertaining
* I am great company
* I love being by myself
* I am fabulous
* I am a great catch
* My life is complete
* Is he good enough for me?
* What do I want?
* If I am not happy, I will leave
* I am satisfied with who I've become
* I have great friends, a wonderful family and people who love me
* I have a great heart and a warm spirit
* I have everything I need
* I don't want anything from anyone
* My happiness depends on ME
* Life is beautiful
* Only I can change MY life
* There is much more to me than my looks
* I am wise and experienced
* I am a beautiful human being
I am ONLY asking for ONE flirt, ONE number, ONE potential date for next weekend or when you have free time again. That isn't alot to ask. So sign up on the thread and let's see whose game........

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I agree that counts as one... But keep going....try for three in the next 7 days.
This is a really good exercise... Thank you precious for posting this! I read a book that had a very similar excercise and the criteria were... 1) someone new. 2) had a conversation (long enough to know whether you wanted to meet again) and 3) got a way of contacting them (for example phone number, email, "do you come here often" etc).
Meeting three a week is very doable... especially if you check out all the ways to meet someone in Precious' initial post. Another good thing to update us on is "How did you feel" when you were trying this... In the back of your mind, as you take this challenge... keep a note of how you are feeling... This will help uncover many things about your dating mentallity.
For example, i felt like only weirdos talked to strangers in line at the supermarket...This thought was not true. And was part of what kept me from meeting the many eligibles in my city. The truth is Sociable, Witty, Fun, Adventurous (etc) people talk to strangers all the time. And that's the kind of person I want to be on a date... so again, this is a great idea! Tell us what goes through your mind when meeting someone new.
Loonybunny
Here is the thing, I have NEVER initated speaking to a man in person...I need tips!! Plus I have the kiddos this weekend and the next so how do you do it with kids??
Did you read my tips to Liz?
Initiating contact...
First and foremost RING CHECK. Make sure of tan lines on finger, check if with someone. Scope out the situation. You are a prowler, waiting for the victim like a spider. Ok, maybe not a spider, let's say COUGAR! GROWL!
Then if they have children stand close and ask: How old is the child? What school? Does the child do sports. Make a comment on how CUTE it is. LOL
If he has a dog: Ask what kind? His name, age, where he found him, etc.
If you have nothing to go by: Mention the weather. Like it's hot as hell here, so I would be commenting on the heat.
If you are in a department store, stop in the mens section, RING CHECK and then stand next to a guy, check out the t-shirts or something and say: I am sorry, but I am really embarrassed to ask, but you are the SAME size as my Dad and I am trying to figure out what size to get him. OR you say, I am trying to figure out if I should get the blue or the red for my Dad. What color do guys usually prefer? This will be the LADY in DISTRESS situation and the man always wants to be the hero.......
Grocery store: Same sort of scenario in the BBQ section.
ANY sort of interaction communication WILL be counted. You just have to try it. Don't forget, fufu yourself up a bit. Put on the lipgloss or the mascara you usually don't wear because you just don't care anymore. You need the attitude of I CARE and I AM BEAUTIFUL. Read the initial post on what to say to yourself.
Another GREAT TIP is to force yourself to smile in the mirror for TWO whole minutes. Forcing it brings endorphines and then say all the wonderful things about you.
Once your ready Cougar, go out and get them! The only loser is the one that sits home and doesn't try!
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Because of the evening I had last night, I could be a real "debbie-downer" here, BUT I'm not going to be!! Trying to stay positive here!!!! LOL
I liked your suggestion on the men's dept. and bbq section and would like to also add to that. The "auto" section (the best car wax to use, not that you have to buy it ;) or in a store such as Lowe's or Home Depot, there's always lots of questions that could come up. So the next time you find yourself in Lowe's or Home Depot buying Gorilla glue or something, you could always ask what brand they prefer. Nothing wrong with getting an opinion or two even though you already know what you want. I would also suggest going in the evenings during the week. My reason, I would think (and I might be wrong about this) most men go shopping with their wives on the weekend and I would think that going during the week in the evening like after 7:00 or so, would "weed out" a lot of married men.
I was looking for a RESULTS post from you this morning... I have a date coming up, but he's not someone new per se... it is with COOK. It will be our first date, but I've known him for about a month.... I went to the karaoke bar on Friday and Saturday. He was working Friday and somewhat invited me back on Saturday because it was his day off. He said, "if you don't show up, I'll be board all night."
As we were talking about how we both haven't seen the new Harry Potter movie, he said we should go together on his next day off. I said, we should go RIGHT NOW... such and such theater has midnight movies. He looked for a newspaper or phonebook so we could check for listings, but he couldn't find one... He said we'll still see the movie and he'll call. We hung out after the bar closed to eat, too. He was sweet enough to offer to buy food. He didn't "make a move" but i enjoyed his company...I'm thinking that after our movie date, i'll know better if this could be more than friendship (and I'm hoping this isn't another "brian")...
As far as other "results" i flirted with 3 other guys Friday night... JB, JE, and RO. JB was a cutie pie, too. Also, on Sunday at a Pet Supply Store, I could have flirted with the employee there, but didn't. He showed my children the rodents and let them hold them... I asked him about Carpet Flee stuff and he said he'd have more inventory on Wednesday... perhaps I should go back on Wednesday and flirt a little so I can count him....lol.
Loonybunny
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