I couldn't keep my mouth shut...

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I couldn't keep my mouth shut...
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 9:17am

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:35pm

This is what I wrote him today and I feel weird but better that I got it out:


You know I’m probably one of the most honest outspoken people you’ve talked to in awhile. So I need to say this and get this off my chest, because it’s how I feel and I think I just need to be honest about my feelings with you at all times.


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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:36pm

Blowing sunshine up skirts.... ah I would like to be able to do that *grin*

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:42pm

Yes, exactly, I rather feel that if he isn't ready to make a decision then he needs to look someplace else first and not use me during that time for his enjoyement until someone better comes along to entertain him.


Not meant in a mean way, but I just have no room to be kicked to the curb once the healing is done and the energy has been sucked out of me.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:49pm

GOOD!!!!!!!!

It shows you have good integrity and good self preservation and respect. And I like your solution!! I like the whole thing a lot!!

Now see what he says!!

"A kiss in a very intimate and emotional thing and it’s something I would want us to share when we are both feeling comfortable and truly ready, along with intimacy in general. I just don’t want that kind of pressure on either of us now. I feel the entire circumstance has put a pressure on us and it makes me sad, because this is definitely not where I want to be. I want to be in a happy zone with you and not with feelings of doubt and confusion."

AGREED. And a kiss is a lot like ruffles potato chips - you can't have just one! LOL!! I am of the mind that I am not going to be mixing casual dating and real kissing - they have to be my boyfriend for that - because I don't want to have confusion of the heart. So I am with you on this one for sure.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:54pm

I agree.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 1:55pm

"Mark who has plenty of sunshine to blow, just needs someplaces to put it in..."

YOU are hilarious today!!

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:02pm

My thought is: If he feels that I am not worth him trying to give himself two extra months to make things better and more acceptable for us,

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:07pm
EXACTLY!! I can't imagine how tough this is for you. You are doing a GREAT job handling things!! It is so hard to be totally logical when feelings are involved...
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:08pm

Agreed!!!


Your email to him is very good. If he agrees- then he is seeing value in not rushing and respecting what you two could be together. If he does

~Pacific~
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:12pm

Ok, so I googled her in vital records and found out she died January 2nd. That is 10 weeks today and strangely enough the day I broke up with Nascar. ANYWAY, an additional 8 weeks are definitely in order, which would put him at almost 5 months and in my mind is much more appropriate.