I couldn't keep my mouth shut...

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I couldn't keep my mouth shut...
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 9:17am

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:22pm

Yes- 5 months would be much more appropriate. That is strange- the same day as your breakup with Nascar! Hmmm...could be some synchronicity going on!


How do you access google vital stats? Do you have to pay for that service?

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:24pm

Vital statistics are open to the public. Just put vital statistics and the

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:28pm

Cat - I think this is a really well written, well thought-out note and I also think it is a really great and totally reasonable solution.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:52pm

Cat, I really like the solution you came up with.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:55pm
I was just thinking - he may be quiet and take some time to respond. Give it a week, Cat!!
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:56pm

Oh, I'm sorry Cat, that things had to take this turn.


If I was going to comment, it would probably sound much like this one of Judy's (that I am posting under, if you're looking at the board's outline view).


I understand that you were moving forward slowly and thinking maybe you could be friends for now, since you know how recent his former wife's death was. Moving slowly is a good idea for both of you right now! But then for him to bring up the kissing thing... I can understand why that would rub you the wrong way. Both reasons- because that means he is wanting to move too quickly (more quickly than you want, plus more quickly than we all think he should)- and also because, like you said- if you were truly on the same page about dating and becoming boyfriend/girlfriend,

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:03pm

I know, your right. What is said is said, but I was more upset with the fact that I feel he is one of these guys that again were on OLD and emotionally unavailable and really shouldn't even be on there. That I get sick of being stuck with them. Which should be a random venting session on this board and not turned on him. Hopefully i recovered it with my email to him and that is that. Nothing I can do now but learn to NOT react next time. (something I have a hard time doing)

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:05pm
He'll respond sometime tonight. I know it won't take a week, because we have a date for lunch on Friday and I know it's important for him to clear the air with me too.
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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 3:47pm

Hey Cat- I'd posted before I finished reading through the entire thread! Somehow I missed a huge chunk of it!


Anyway- I like the email you sent, and I think it puts the situation into a very clear place. Hopefully he will read it and understand it as well. But no matter how he responds... I think you did well in communicating in that email, and there's not much more you can do at this point.


About the emotionally unavailable men... somehow I think there are plenty of women out there who are wanting to date, who

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 03-12-2008 - 4:07pm

My take on C is that he is very emotionally available (open, vulnerable)