Oh, I'm sorry Cat, that things had to take this turn.
If I was going to comment, it would probably sound much like this one of Judy's (that I am posting under, if you're looking at the board's outline view).
I understand that you were moving forward slowly and thinking maybe you could be friends for now, since you know how recent his former wife's death was. Moving slowly is a good idea for both of you right now! But then for him to bring up the kissing thing... I can understand why that would rub you the wrong way. Both reasons- because that means he is wanting to move too quickly (more quickly than you want, plus more quickly than we all think he should)- and also because, like you said- if you were truly on the same page about dating and becoming boyfriend/girlfriend,
I know, your right. What is said is said, but I was more upset with the fact that I feel he is one of these guys that again were on OLD and emotionally unavailable and really shouldn't even be on there. That I get sick of being stuck with them. Which should be a random venting session on this board and not turned on him. Hopefully i recovered it with my email to him and that is that. Nothing I can do now but learn to NOT react next time. (something I have a hard time doing)
He'll respond sometime tonight. I know it won't take a week, because we have a date for lunch on Friday and I know it's important for him to clear the air with me too.
Hey Cat- I'd posted before I finished reading through the entire thread! Somehow I missed a huge chunk of it!
Anyway- I like the email you sent, and I think it puts the situation into a very clear place. Hopefully he will read it and understand it as well. But no matter how he responds... I think you did well in communicating in that email, and there's not much more you can do at this point.
About the emotionally unavailable men... somehow I think there are plenty of women out there who are wanting to date, who
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Yes- 5 months would be much more appropriate. That is strange- the same day as your breakup with Nascar! Hmmm...could be some synchronicity going on!
How do you access google vital stats? Do you have to pay for that service?
Vital statistics are open to the public. Just put vital statistics and the
Cat - I think this is a really well written, well thought-out note and I also think it is a really great and totally reasonable solution.
Cat, I really like the solution you came up with.
Oh, I'm sorry Cat, that things had to take this turn.
If I was going to comment, it would probably sound much like this one of Judy's (that I am posting under, if you're looking at the board's outline view).
I understand that you were moving forward slowly and thinking maybe you could be friends for now, since you know how recent his former wife's death was. Moving slowly is a good idea for both of you right now! But then for him to bring up the kissing thing... I can understand why that would rub you the wrong way. Both reasons- because that means he is wanting to move too quickly (more quickly than you want, plus more quickly than we all think he should)- and also because, like you said- if you were truly on the same page about dating and becoming boyfriend/girlfriend,
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I know, your right. What is said is said, but I was more upset with the fact that I feel he is one of these guys that again were on OLD and emotionally unavailable and really shouldn't even be on there. That I get sick of being stuck with them. Which should be a random venting session on this board and not turned on him. Hopefully i recovered it with my email to him and that is that. Nothing I can do now but learn to NOT react next time. (something I have a hard time doing)
Hey Cat- I'd posted before I finished reading through the entire thread! Somehow I missed a huge chunk of it!
Anyway- I like the email you sent, and I think it puts the situation into a very clear place. Hopefully he will read it and understand it as well. But no matter how he responds... I think you did well in communicating in that email, and there's not much more you can do at this point.
About the emotionally unavailable men... somehow I think there are plenty of women out there who are wanting to date, who
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
~<
My take on C is that he is very emotionally available (open, vulnerable)
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