I decided I hate being a single parent

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Registered: 02-24-2007
I decided I hate being a single parent
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 11:49am

I hate being a single parent period.

It has been over two years since my divorce was final. In that time I had one boyfriend but that ended over a year ago in January 2006. Since that time I have had three dates with two different men. I have not had sex since I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. I was married for over 10 years and we were together for 4 years prior to that. So I will admit I am not even to sure how to meet men to date. I do not want to do the online dating thing. I just want to stop being lonely all the time. I will be honest I want to married again. I liked being married I just did not like the person I was married to or shall I say my ex husband did not like me.

I don't like doing every thing on my own like the parenting taking care of bills, house ext. I is wearing me out. It is makeing me tired and stressed. So I am a lonely,overwhelmed, stessed parent who is going to be 39 in a week. It all just makes me feel oh so very sad

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 9:32am
That is very sad for you. I somehow think by your posts that you should talk to a counselor who can listen to your situation and help you sort through the sadness and bitterness that might be holding you back from trying new things and being happy again. Of course we are always here and I urge you to read the other posts and chime in. We can always use new suggestions, too.
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 10:51am
Judy, I was just going to respond with the exact same advice.
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 11:01am

tvc, huhnee, I think that depression monster is knocking on your door - loudly.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 11:51am
I keep telling you that instead of IT you should be a counselor - and you never listen!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 10:00pm

I'm 2 years from my DS being 18 Yrs Old and I've been doing it alone from the start.

Maybe I have it easier, but maybe not.

I'm looking at single hood after he's on his own as an adventure not as a failure on my part. I've raised him to independance by being independant. He knows life is hard, but is fun in the same breath.

I'm comfortable being me, I don't fluff myself to attract men, I can cook for 1 as easily as I cook for 10, I still love me time and I'm always willing to give myself the benifit of a doubt when I've jumped off the deep end and broke one of my own rules.

Jer- Just celebrated my 9th year here on IV, and proud the original site I posted to is still up and running. I've also never had to change my name.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 10:02pm
Wow - 9 years jerbear - that is quite something!
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 10:03am

I totally get what you mean. I'm so sorry you feel that way. After my divorce almost 5 years ago, I felt like I'd never meet anyone. I did and I dated quite a bit, but nothing good. Then I met someone special, my DH, Shane. We've been married almost 3 years, but, unfortunately, are separated. We still see each other and hang out, but we do not live together. I agree, being with someone is usually better than being alone, except one thing...if you are miserable with that person, it is better to be alone. Honestly, wouldn't you rather do it all yourself and not have to fight with someone? My second marriage is in trouble and I just turned 34. I have 2 kids. It's hard, but we just have to handle what comes. There is someone out there for you. But you just have to give fate a chance. You will meet him.

~Mel~

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