I desperatly need to vent..forgive me
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| Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:12pm |
Ok my first vent is my sister...
My sister who I allowed to live with me for 9 months (for a rent of only 150.00) because she broke upo with her boyfreind she was living with and had no where to go . Well she moved out mid November and ever since has treated me like crap. She also left a raggedy couch and a boxspring mattress in the garage and hasnt picked it up... She also borrowed Jerrys extra truck and promised she would return it and never did. She wont return my calls and she is having surgery tomorrow so she has to get her stuff moved today she knows it. She called me just now and was so short with me. I havent done ANYTHING wrong to this woman...not a G D thing! She makes me sooo angry. She says its becuase I havent come to visit her== well she has hardly been there( she stayed at our other sisters for almost a week!) and well-- she lives in a low income housing high rise that is in the ghetto and I am not kidding there are shootings and killings there all the time. I have the boys and I refuse to bring them there.
My next vent is my dad...
He co owns my house and is being greedy and a jerk about the money we will get in the closing of my house.
Specifically he is charging me 12.00 per hour for when he helped me get rid of my ex husbands things out of my house! and his claim is it adds up to $1000.00...I was like WHAAATTT????? I cant beleive you are charging your own daughter for helping her???? I said god forbid dad when you and mom end up in the nursing home we end up charging for the work we have to do to rid your things...OK cheap shot but I was pissed.
My next vent is my ex mother in law...
She is always whining about how her poor son just got out all wrong in the divorce...
Ummm no he ended up with 50% which actually he doesnt even pay!
AND he has a son from a marriage prior to me and he pays that ONE kid more in child support than what The twins will recieve total....again - that he doesnt even pay.
I have to bite my tongue every time with me that she gives me the poor baby crap.
He hasnt done a thing!
Ok I feel a little better--
PMS is kicking in big time-- soon I will be crying (ughh)

Yeah, I agree about your dad, that is ridiculous, trying to charge you. If I was you, I'd tell him to take me to court. If the house was bought 50/50 then it gets split the same way when it sells. AND when you asked your dad to help you move your ex's things, he did not specify that he would help ONLY if you agreed to pay him per hour, did he? I'll bet there was NO mention of paying him when he agreed, and so NO contract of that nature is valid, so I wouldn't be paying him a dime for his greediness, dad or no dad.
Your sister sounds like a piece of work! I'm sure you love her, but I can relate to being driven nuts by someone like that. I would leave her a message that if she doesn't A) return the truck you will be forced to report it stolen and B) if she doesn't remove her couch and mattress you will haul them to the dump. Put a time limit in the message, IE BY SUNDAY.
As for your ex mother in law, mine's just as bad, I hear ya on allll counts there....
Alison
Oh Marybeth
I'm sorry you have such miserable people around you.
It's when I read things like this that I am reminded how lucky I am to have the family I do.
You should ask your dad if he's going to report that income to the IRS? Haha.
I'm so sorry, I wish there was something more I could say. But sending you a hug.
Tara
I agree with Alison's post.
With regards to your xmil, remember god gave you 2 ears - in one ear and out the next...
Good luck!!
Big Hugs. Are you feeling better today.
Here's my two cents, for what they're worth...
With regards to your sister, you A) Haul the junk to the curb...today. That's it. Done. B) I hope to goodness Jerry had an extra set of keys. This is his deal, since it was his truck to loan. He simply goes and GETS it. Enough said (if no extra set, I'd do like someone else said and leave her a message saying it will be reported stolen over the weekend if it's not back in Jerry's possession by a specific time)
I am sorry your dad was so unkind. I can't fathom helpign someone, and then AFTER THE FACT stating that they owe you for help. I feel certain that if he had "offered" to help for money upfront, you'd have said "no thanks, I can handle it myself" I guess you know who NOT to ask for help again, even though it's a crying shame that your family would behave like that.
And on your EX MIL...who CARES what she says? Honestly, do you have to cross her path on a regular basis? If not, let it go. If you do see her often, work on limiting conversation. There's no need for it, and I can't see any good coming from being in touch with her.
Hope it felt better to vent it all out. I know we all try to help, but perhaps you weren't even looking for help, but just wanted to verbally spew a bit. I understand that. Seems like when I try to do that, it's usually with my best friend who happens to be my husband, and thankfully, a man. AND, you know how men are when you vent. They want a solution/fix for everything. And that's just plain frustrating!!! (hug)