I *despise* my X!!!!!!!!!!
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I *despise* my X!!!!!!!!!!
| Thu, 05-31-2007 - 9:18pm |
Things have been fairly sane & quiet. He hasnt been causing any issues, has seemingly been in a fairly decent mood when I drop dd off or pick her up. I even LOANED HIM $75 on Sat, b/c things had been so calm for about 6 weeks or so, I was hoping helping him out a bit would keep things on an even keel. NOT so!
Earlier today, freind dropped dd, age 7, at dance & X


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He is such a waste of a human.
Poor Ave... she's so little and already she is having to deal with trying to soothe his feelings. When HE is supposed to be the adult and be the one to soothe HER feelings instead since she is the child! Ugh on all that is going on! All she is learning to do is to walk tip-toe around him and having to change how she thinks or feels based on how HE is acting that day. That is SOOO wrong for her to have to deal with all this! Especially when she is just a child!!!
Hugs, and I hope she will be okay when you pick her up.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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You poor thing. I am sorry for you and for your DD. OMG - that has to be every mothers nightmare. I know I get a sick feeling when I see my exh treat my DS the same way he treated me. It just stinks. And yours is so much worse he makes mine look like an angel.
I don't know what to say except maybe it will be soon time to modify the visitation agreement? I couldn't imagine that would be easy.
And it is already hard for you to have to deal with your work schedule and what to do while you are working.
Document document - I am not sure if you should withhold her from him - I know that is one of the things the court does look down upon the most. Maybe the others can comment.
HUGS!! Sorry!! Hang in there, okay.
You just made me feel better for my fireman decision. Because that was a hard one to make.
Oh Rebecca- ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Poor Averey!!!
Poor little kid. She doesn't deserve that. So unfair that he takes his frustrations out on her.
I totally agree with your stance on stopping the visitations. If he is being so mean and cranky, this suggests he gets no pleasure from seeing her either. Your friend has seen this first-hand too, so you have good back-up there. I can imagine how you feel thinking of your lovely little girl cowering in the bathroom. That is devastating for you.
Good luck, Rebecca. It must be so hard for you having this guy still messing up your lives.
Clem xx
Thanks everyone. It means so much to be validated in my feelings, AND for all the support.
I can completely understand where you're coming from.
I would rarely advise someone to break a court order, but knowing your situation and the long drawn out process you've been through, I am agreeing with you here.
Poor Averey! I'm so glad she has a momma like you- it is so patently obvious you care more about her best interest than your own.
Just remember to document, document, document!
I don't know what I'd be doing were I in your situation, but I do know I'm incredibly thankful not to be!
Keep us posted!
Moody, reminded of a mama bear
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That's just crappy. I know I get aggravated with my kids sometimes, as we all do, but come on! Yelling and then tellyou you A needs to just get over it??? UMMMMM, no! Good for you. Take is a** to court!
~Mel~...steaming from the ears!
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I cried so hard when I read your post about your dd because it took me back to when I was a child and had to hide in closets when my mother was on one of her rampages. I grew up with 2 alchoholic parents who had the world's messiest divorce. When I would go on visitations with my father all he would ever do for years on end is spend the evening yelling at me and my sibilings about what a slut our mother was, as she had repeatedly cheated on him. I absolutely hated my time with him, unfortunately I had no one to turn to and intervene on my behalf.
Avery's saving grace is that she does have you to turn to, that makes all the difference in the world. I believe you have posted that she sees a therapist, I would definately encourage her to open up to her therapist about this latest incident. I would also suggest that when she is a little older, maybe having her attend ALA-teen meetings,they helped me quite a bit, when I was younger. Some chapters have groups for younger children,
our group had 7 and 8 year olds. It will be very beneficial for her to be around other children that are dealing with similar issues.
I will pray for Avery and every child out there that has to deal with these issues, it truly breaks my heart. I'm 45 years old and I still feel the pain.
The less time she spends with him the better. Document and see if you can find a way to lessen their time together that he won't notice right away. If you make it obvious, you know he's going to retaliate, I don't want to see you get hurt.
God that must be so painful for you (and Avery) Rebecca. Nothing so hard as being a parent not being able to protect our children from hurt.
It sounds like you DD is so sweet, caring, and mature. Such a heartbreak to hear her say how she does not want to hurt her dad's feelings and he being the immature one who does not care.
Damn that hanging up is something that I've experienced as well.
My heart aches for you and your daughter.
Hugs
Mark
Thanks SO much everyone. Just knowing you are all praying for Averey, helps. We will get thru it ... we've gotten THIS far, & as bad as it can be, its NOTHING like still living with him.
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