I did it

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Registered: 07-14-2007
I did it
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:17pm

I sat him down last night and told him he needed to find his own place.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: msmsavannah
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:31pm

(((HUGS)))

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: msmsavannah
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 9:45pm

OH wow - good job msmsavannah!! You did do the right thing - because I did read your original post about him texting and gossiping and it was all too much for you!! And your sweet DS needs a happy mama!!

I am happy for you!!! Keep us posted!!

I also think this sets the stage for him to respect you. Boundaries are always a good thing - even though they are hard to dole out and sometimes the other person doesn't like them at first.

HUGS!!

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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: msmsavannah
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:56pm
You go girl! Yes, sometimes the right thing is harder in the short run, but in the end it is more than worth it. Don't back down on this!!
Steph
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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: msmsavannah
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:47pm

I am sticking to my guns here even though it was hard to do.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
In reply to: msmsavannah
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:49pm
Leave the list on the front porch. Right on top of his belongings!!
S
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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: msmsavannah
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:53pm
LOL!!
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Registered: 11-22-2006
In reply to: msmsavannah
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 3:49pm
I am so thrilled for you that you have take this step. I can tell from your posts that deep down you have been yearning to move on with your life and have accepted that things between you were over and yet with him in the house you cant have it both ways! Yay for you and I know it must have been a difficult subject to bring up.
I am annoyed for you that he isnt searching for a place to live and is instead boating and flyign around and living the high life. I would be tempted to ask him if he has something already set up for himself and when is that situation free for him to begin. When he looks confused as to why you would think he has something already set up I would explain that he just isnt behaving much like someone who doesnt have a place to live sometime soon. Most people would be
A. looking for a job nonstop so they could pay bills and child support
B. looking for reasonable housing
C. packing
What do you think he is up to if anything? Or is he just carefree and cant be bothered to deal with the nastiness of trying to figure out his life? ( oops did that sound judgemental?)
Lilypie - Personal picture
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: msmsavannah
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 4:05pm

I am happy with this post and that you had fun on such a nice evening out - but like city I am annoyed that he is not on a mission to get out.

I hope you don't have him in a Hyatt style guest room. If so, I think I would be inclined to convert that into a learning/play room for DS - right away - and give him the couch, along with a box to put stuff, and a bathroom full of rubber ducks and all sorts of kids stuff.

I heard a saying - a guest that overstays their welcome starts to smell like a fish. This one is a stinky fish.

And I would be inclined to make it a little more inconvenient. Maybe the computer and TV need to get unplugged and moved for some home improvement? hahahaha!!