I Did It

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Registered: 05-05-2004
I Did It
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 3:07pm

I jumped into the on-line dating pool. I was playing around on my cousin’s computer not this past weekend, but the weekend before. A friend told me about Eharmony, so I decided to check it out. So far, I have no complaints. It is a lot of work though. The first thing you have to do is fill out a questionnaire. It took me about 30 min. to finish it. Then they send you more questions to answer. Then once you are finished with all of that, they send you “matches” – people they think are compatible with you based on how you answered the questions. This is only the second week that I am in it. I have been getting about 3 or 4 matches a day. What I like about it is that if for any reason you don’t like the match they sent you, you can put it on hold or close it. There are 2 rounds of questions that you ask your match and he asks you. Then you get to pick a list of “must haves” and “can’t stands”. Then the last step is open communication, where you get to send messages to each other.

I was at the open communication stage with 4 guys. I had some trouble loading pictures onto the computer, so I had my brother-in-law help me with it on Friday night. I guess some of those guys didn’t like my picture, because I got a “close” message today from two of them. It bothered me at first, but then I thought if a guy wants to judge me by a two-inch picture, then he’s not the kind of person I want to be with anyway. I’m not a super model, but I’m certainly not ugly – and anyway, I’m a really nice person.

So, as it stands now, there are 3 people I am e-mailing. This one I was interested in even before I saw his picture. He posted his picture today, and what I can tell from it, he’s pretty handsome. I replied to his message today, and I’m hoping he answers back.

Just wanted to give you guys an update. If I get a date out of any of this, I’ll let you know.

Donna

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 10:54pm
How are you doing? Any good news?
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In reply to: momoftwins65
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:12pm

Hmmm, good news?

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:41am

Thanks for the kind words, Lizs. I'm really not even giving it much thought now, and just giving it a break. It's funny though because I always thought because I was older and chunky the odds were stacked against me. Well, yesterday evening I had a photo shoot (I'm a part time plus size model) and me and the girls (regular models) started talking about dating adventures.One of the girls there who is drop dead geougeous tells me about her online dating hell, much worse than mine and then the other girls chime in about their bad experiences too, before you know it even the gay guys start joing in, they have problems too. We were just telling war stories and laughing it up, it was lots of fun. Hey, I look at it this way if the most georgeous people in NY have problems, anyone can. I tell you I left feeling so much better, they are a nice group of kids, and I enjoy when we hang out they always give me nice encouragement and support and I enjoy being the mother hen to everybody. Bottom line, it would be nice to meet a good guy, but if it dosen't happen, no biggie, I'm pretty busy right now anyway.

Lots of luck to you Lizs in all you do.

The T Girl
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:12pm

It is okay not to sweat the small stuff - but you should not lower your standards, either. I think you sound in a good place because you are getting over him on your own and you accept that you cannot change him.

No news here. The kitchen is all over the house - in boxes everywhere. It is amazing how much stuff you can really fit in your cupboards!! We do not have a sink.

I have been staying busy with working, my son, working out. But no news is actually good news in some cases!!

Keep us posted!! Congrats on the yoga!!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:13pm
This is so true for everyone - it is hard to meet someone who is compatible, available and on the same page with life and wanting a relationship. It just takes time. But I bet finding all that out put a smile on your face - it is always good to see that everyone struggles with this.
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In reply to: momoftwins65
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 12:31pm

Judy:

I am really glad that I posted on Monday, and I really appreciate everyone's input. This on-line dating thing is so new to me. I have promised myself that I won't let it make me nuts. And as far as the picture goes, I still think it's hard to tell how a person is from a two-inch picture. I'll be 40 next month, and everyone tells me I don't look 40. Mark always told me I looked hot. Jeff (this single dad who wants to go out with me but we can't seem to get a weekend where we are both free at the same time) tells me I'm beautiful. I guess it's just important to know who you are and not to let the turkeys get you down!

Monday evening I started feeling sick. I missed work Tuesday and Wednesday because I had strep. It was horrible, chills, aches, and fevers of 103. That kind of put things in perspective for me. Me, my health and my kids is what is important. All the rest is secondary. If anything happens, you know I will let everyone know. It's just such a slow process. Like I said, I missed work on Tuesday and Wednesday, and I don't have a computer at home. Wednesday I was still feeling sick, my kids had a lot of homework, my refrigerator died on me, and the White Sox were losing 4 to 0 in the first couple of innings. I was a bad fan and I shut the game off and decided to go to the library with the kids. I got on line to check my E-Harmoy account. This guy that looks promising e-mailed me twice while I was out. I really don't mind the e-mailing stage. I like to talk, so it comes easy for me. I always have something to say. I'm just going to go with the flow and keep e-mailing and see what happens. At least he hasn't deleted me. He has e-mailed me more than anyone else has. I'll keep you posted.

Donna

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: momoftwins65
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:29pm

I think eharmony is a good site as long as you can find matches - so it is GREAT that you have some that are emailing you!! That is always fun to find when you get home and check the computer!!

Sorry to hear you were sick - get well soon!!

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