I didnt get what i wanted...but

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I didnt get what i wanted...but
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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 12:10pm

I got a taste. CP was NOT arrested but he did go and pay his full back support yesterday so I should be getting a check soon (fingers crossed...it is throught he state though). So he shows up with no atty and my lawyer jumps to his feet and says now im annoyed...YIPPEE. I figure hes going for blood now. Not so much...we worked out a visitation schedule thats better for all of us (including my DD). For the summer hes still on his tuesday day only since he still has no car. I will continue to drive with him paying me $20 each week for gas - no pay -no go. When oct 16 hits he is to have her every other weekend (like normal people do it) and hes to pick up and drop off (his skank applied for a drivers license and i said i was fine with it). we alternate thanksgiving, i get christmas eve until christmas morn at 11 he picks her up and drives her home by 7pm christmas night. he gets fathers day (hes to provide transportation) I pretty much stuck all driving on him since he said they were getting a car. My atty and i both looked at him and said ok we shall see. Hey more power to them if they get one. He asked for two weeks for vacation and i said no 1. This was after i said we are going to disney in nov and he snaps back we are going for 2 weeks in december. OK all...lets pick it apart lie by lie...he mentioned he was getting married in a month and my atty said wow thats been a long month..shes really been holding out huh...LOL almost peed a little on that one. so lets run it down...


1. Wedding – ummm that’s been happening for 3 months now


2. Disney 2 weeks

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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 1:39pm
this should be it. my atty said that IF he files anything else again without merit the judge will throw it out simply because he will see through cp and his ridiculous and malicious attempts at being vindictive towards me. CP has lost weight and i KNOW its from stress. I hope his body is 1/2 as sick as mine has been. Maybe my ulcers will finally start to heal...who knows...im exhausted
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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 1:50pm

I'm glad this is finally getting worked out for you.

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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 2:42pm

Ugghh it was terrible. She was ranting she was going to take them to court for everything she ever purchased as a gift for me and TBH was yelling back "fine we see you in the court then". My mom cant just let it go. they are possessions only, no longer my possessions, stinked up smeared with stank possessions. CP can have it all my concern is DD and shes all fired up over little things. Im happy to walk away from it all. Its her bad karma now...not mine. CP and TBH will never have anything of their own nor will they ever give DD the life ive already started for her. She has a college fund and shes 2, i have a life insurance policy for her if anything happens to me, she has a loving extended family (cps sister doesnt even have anything to do with him and TBH's family are in the slums of russia for all i know). Hes just a loser and i think it burns my mom more than me sometimes. Im just pooped and have a raging headache ...again (they are on a daily basis now - even wake up with one) **sigh**


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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 3:12pm

I hope that headache goes away soon.

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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 11:39pm

tbh looked like an idiot


My guess is that whoever was yelling and behaving badly was

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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 8:38am
Yes soonee I agree with you 150%.
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:30am

Oh my god, you are hilarious! I was laughing when i read your post. Such witty verbal sparring....I bet that felt great!


:)

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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 12:29pm
You know it didnt feel to good to be honest...well the part about the OW being an expensive mistake felt good, but the rest...just really draining. It shouldnt have been so draining since neither speak english and i consider myself gifted with a silver tongue but all in all just draining on the soul. I WISH i could get past my hatred for them both but i know in order to that i need to get over the hurt first...and it still hurts a he** of a lot. So for now i keep my mouth shut and let my atty chew him up...sheesh since my case my atty has made partner in his firm....I like to think I helped LOL ok so at least his kids got some new shoes out of my fees (an entire closet of shoes!)
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 12:34pm

I agree with your mom's friend... don't tell your mother when your court dates are... keep the info to yourself.


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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 12:47pm
My atty wont talk to her...he chuckles at her. Shes never offered up dime one for my atty. In the beginning she told me not to get one then screamed not to ask for a penny if i got one...WTF??? Then she feels the need to hound him with questions...so this last time we just excused ourselves from the drama and sat in a room and spoke. My mother is very CONTROLLING but ive learned to live with it and like you said i try to redirect. I snapped one time that i have boundaries for myself and she needs to respect them...GOOD LORD youd of thunk i shunned her for life. She didnt talk to me for 2 months...then she called and somehow managed to get me to apologize. How do they do it? My best friend always reassures me im not her and i never will be (it was a rough up bringing)...anyway....boundaries Ive got them, they may not be obvious to her but they are there and ive learned to dance quite well.