I don't want to pressure you but....

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I don't want to pressure you but....
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 10:32am

ok, so last night CG said " I don't want to pressure you, but my friends really want to meet the woman that I'm head over heels with."
I said: "I don't feel pressured to meet your friends, but I don't want you to feel pressured to introduce me to them. So when you are comfortable, then you just let me know and we'll do it."

Friends..... YIKES. Meeting your significant others friends is always a little nerve wracking. Especially, because he has a lot of women friends and I am not into catty women. :) Unlike this group, we all know what they can be like. I am always getting some woman commenting on how I look and that I probably have a alternative reason to being with the guy I'm dating (example: me being a gold digger or looking for a father figure for my children). This time, I think I've figured out the strategy. Down play my looks. LOL. So just a tad of make-up, mascara, lip gloss and that's it. Dressing down a little, because I always dress very nice, but look a little more down to earth. I think going this route, may be the wiser choice. I want them to get to know "me", not judge the book by the cover.
It has nothing to do with me not being me, because I'll still be "me" in character, just not showing the fashion and hot looking chick that CG knows. LOL
Anyone else have to do this or done this? Thoughts?

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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 1:59pm

Cat, by ALL means ask him!!!

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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 2:03pm
I was hoping on your reply in agreement! LOL
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 3:24pm

I'd ask him. And if he says yes, I would just say you're not ready for all that. His buddies, sure. His buddies girlfriends or wives, sure. But ex g/fs or other women who were "in the running" are a bit too much too soon. I seriously think that is totally valid to say so.


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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 10:22pm
It's freak out inducing I know. I've met a lot of Duck Fans male friends but none of the female friends. Still from past experience be yourself, ask them about themselves, and don't let catty comments get to you. They'll love you. Edited to add: Duck Fans male friends live closer and his female friends live in other states or he just doesn't see them that often. No other weird reasons for not meeting them.

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Edited 10/12/2008 10:26 pm ET by jenilouise612
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