I ended things.....

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I ended things.....
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:57pm

I am very sad, because I care so VERY much about Nascar, but I know deep down, I did the right thing. I thought very hard about it and the entire stress about the children and his low tolerance for kids was what I just didn't want in my life. He portrayed things to be different, but when actually put to the test he failed miserably (too long to recap). I talked to him about it again on Wednesday, because I just felt more was missing then just him having to take it slow.


He told me he just had a hard time dealing with little children and had a low tolerance and high stress around them. He enjoyed my oldest because she is so quiet and shy, but he had trouble with my youngest and dealing with her energy and emotions. Thats ok, but that would never change.


I know how

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 7:04pm

I'm so sorry, Cat- but I'm also proud of you. It's a good thing that you recogized this big deal-breaker, if he can't handle being around kids, and the fact that you HAVE KIDS... well, there's just no way around that! You're not giving them up just to spend time with him! So in that way, I'm glad that it wasn't after you've been dating him for a long, long time.


Hugs,


~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 7:42pm
I spoke to my youngest about it today, because I had school Tuesday night, met Nascar Wednesday when we broke up and yesterday I was in Chicago, so I felt like I hadn't seen my children in days. Anyways... I was working from home today and when they came home from school my youngest asked if we could go to chick-filet. I said SURE and so we were walking to the car and she puts her little hands in mine and she said: "Mom, I really love spending time together."
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 8:09pm
Oh honey that bites.
 
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:53pm
Hugs Cat. I'm sorry it came to this.

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