I feel crazy... I think... Lol!

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Registered: 03-07-2008
I feel crazy... I think... Lol!
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 11:49pm
Help! I don't know if I'm going nuts. I recently cut ties to an 8 year relationship I was in. Very unhealthy relationship. I have a wonderful child out of this relationship but that's pretty much the only good thing I got out of it. My child and a lesson learned.. I hope. Anyway, since the split I'm completely doing a change in my life. I got on a diet, started eating healthier, quit smoking, started the gym, trying my best to just be better all around. Biggest problem for me right now is that I feel lonely. REALLY lonely. B4 when I would feel lonely id call my ex for a good time and have him make me feel wanted. Every time was a mistake cuz it just made me feel worse at the end, so I ended that. Well now Id like to start dating other men. Dating and eventually finding a future husband. U know a promising man. I'm not interested in short flings that revolve around sex or money. I feel something real. I'm 24 with a 3 year old and although I'm still young, I'm a bit mature and I'm not really into the party sex and drugs scene. So I got a trainer to help me stay focused on my weight loss and tone me. Turns out he's an amazing guy. A few years older then me, has a promising future, loves kids, a great ppl person, wants kids, educated, independent, not a hoe.. Lol! Not to mention really attractive. The more I spend time with him, the more I'm into him. Not good right?! He's my trainer! He hasn't showed any real interest in me.. I think. To be honest I wouldn't even know what to look for. Then there's things like on Sunday, my sessions are usually 25 mins, but he took a full hour and we talked and trained the entire time. He didnt have to do that. I wanna say he's just a really nice guy and that's why he stayed and gave me his extra time. Idk. So basically I wanna know if I'm going nuts cuz I'm soo into my trainer!?

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 8:35am

Hi and welcome!

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Wed, 02-08-2012 - 8:50am
Definitely don't wanna ask him out for lunch because I don't wanna make our sessions awkward. Maybe when my sessions end I'll grow some balls but probably not. All my past relationships I made the first "move" and that hasn't worked for me so I'm really kinda against it.
Also, the play group, I wish I had time. I barely have time to meet up with my friends, much less new friends. Staying busy with the gym n work n stuff help while I'm awake but it's when I lay awake at night that the loneliness attacks.
Thanks for responding! I'll let u kno if anything happens.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-09-2012 - 1:22pm

The gym might also have policies against employees asking to date customers--you never know, so maybe that's why he's not asking.

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Thu, 02-09-2012 - 1:51pm
I thought that might b a reason too. Idk though. I feel like maybe I should just try my best to get this great guy completely out of my head. I don't handle rejection well. :(

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Registered: 02-01-2012
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 6:52pm
Firstly, really well done on starting to get your life sorted out. Its a tough thing to do :)
But secondly I just wanted to say that I think its really important to not rely on other people to 'make' you feel anything. Part of your metamorphosis needs to be getting yourself to a place where you make yourself feel happy and worthy etc and once you have that vibe you'll find that actually start attracting the type of guy you really want.
I find that when i don't have it together I get attracted to anyone who seems to show ANY interest at all just because they make me feel better in the short term
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