I feel like a play thing

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Registered: 03-19-2008
I feel like a play thing
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Fri, 12-26-2008 - 8:13am

EMT has the tendency to let his hands wander...if you know what I mean. I feel like a plaything. I dont mind it if its prior to sex or in private but when its in the kitchen or living room with kids walking around upstairs then it irritates me, especially when he is about to leave and its definitely not prior to sex. Last night when saying goodbye his cold hands started to wander again inside my clothes and I just let it out and said, 'no no no'. I think I shocked him and myself. Am I a prude? Do other women put up with that? Does him being my boyfriend make it his right to feel around? I mean I respect his body and dont let my hands wander unless its in the right context.

Grrr

Laurie

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 8:18am
EG is like that.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 1:07pm

I would agree that at church is crossing the line.

Unfortunately in my case I know whats not coming later.

Laurie

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Registered: 03-26-2006
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 2:33pm

My boyfriend and I do that to each other all the time.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 2:54pm
You are not a prude- some people are just more private than others.
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Fri, 12-26-2008 - 6:02pm

You crack me up.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 9:04pm
kind of like foreplay! Mostly bothers me when it doesn't get to lead to something later.
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 9:39pm
I think issy is right on this one - it does sound like his version of forplay but the thing is women have a very different version of foreplay I think than men do. Men will feel you up straight from nothing and think that is going to get you there and it ios kind of gropey even when they dont mean to be. Women IMO like to be touched softly and little by little and then groped...LOL... most of the time that is! I agree with her that if I am doing something and we are not interacting and he just starts groping, I might get put off rather than turned on. Occasionally when the time is right, sure. But if it is too often, our bodies are getting treated like a possession in my eyes.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 9:44pm
Okay you're kinda right about the foreplay thing. I know DF likes to whisper things to me all day or pinch my tush (not where everyone can see) in a teasing way during the day if we have a date that night. I like it though- builds the anticipation which (I'll admit) makes me a little crazy when we are alone.
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Sat, 12-27-2008 - 11:18am

My exh did the same thing for years, and if I said NO, he got all pissy on me.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sat, 12-27-2008 - 9:31pm
I like it. When I was married to my ex I was starving for physical affection. He never touched me unless it was for sex and that only happened once a week. EG is always touching me and I enjoy the closeness. Sometimes it leads to more and sometimes not. It makes me know that he finds me attractive and I like that.

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