I Feel So Stupid Now
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| Sun, 04-24-2005 - 9:40pm |
I feel like such a freaking moron right now. I really liked this guy I was seeing. Everything seemed to be going really well. We would talk a couple times a day, and see each other during the week some. We saw each other Friday before I went to work, he told me he really liked me, and would like to take me out on a "real" date to get to know me better. Then all of a sudden, he just stops calling. I feel bad....I guess my feelings are hurt. To top it all off, I called him about an hour ago (we were supposed to go on that date tonight) to see what was going on with him - He didn't answer or call back. I just expect the same respect that I give. If he doesn't want to see me and doesn't think it's going to work out, then why not just say so. I'm a big girl, I'm not going to fall apart.....but it still hurts just the same. Furthermore, I don't even know what's going on, so it makes it worse for me. Just want some kind of answer or something from him so I can just put it behind me, etc.
Sorry....just feeling a little crappy right now.
Kait

How rude can you get? The guy is the one who is the freakin moron- you did nothing to feel bad about yourself for. He is just a jerk. Who knows why ppl act like this, but I'm sure it had nothing to do with you. Maybe he was raised by wolves or something because he obviously lacks even basic manners. You're entitled to feel sad about being treated poorly but as soon as you can, put it aside and refuse to think of it again. Leave him to his own kind.
Amy
this kind of thing happens more often than you think. Guys put on the brakes for lots of reasons that have nothing to do with the woman in question.
They get cold feet, they meet someone else they think they might want to date (because they want to play the field), who knows? Don't worry about it.
Just keep focus on YOUR life...don't worry about fickle guys.
Sorry Kait. Sorry you feel bad. But don't peg yourself as being "Dumb" because you did nothing out of the ordinary here. The only thing you could have done differently was to guard your heart/emotions a little more closely. But we all know how hard that is to do. Sorry this guy made it appear he was so very interested and then was so disrespectful in not contacting you. Not a great guy after all, huh?
Hang in there. It takes time to weed through all of the rough ones to find a good guy.
Kait Kait Kait,
Don't you even think about feeling dumb for a minute.
First of all, men are quirky with what they like and don't like and you have no control over this.
Secondly, they don't like conflict or to hurt anyone's feelings so if they stop calling it can mean they got distracted with another girl, just didn't feel like going out or they are just not that into you for whatever reason.
Dating is tough - you have to know that it is both hard to be a match and to find a match. I think you have to really hold your heart back to see if it is going to work and to go slow in the beginning. Being very busy is usually a cure for you.
Let this one go and wait for one who is really into YOU. He will come along!! It does hurt when you really like someone and they don't like you back.
HUGS!!