I finally have a dinner date with Kazoo

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I finally have a dinner date with Kazoo
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:02pm

Lately due to schedules, me moving, my kids, conferences, vacations etc., we have only managed to meet for a late night rendevous here and there. That has been a LOT of fun but I am really looking forward to dinner tonight. One of the things I like so much about Kazoo is his glass half full philosophy on life. ( it is totally opposite of that of STBX).

Now that I have moved, I should be child free a couple of nights each week which should allow us some time together. I have butterflies - I love it! I have known him for fourteen years but, but as friends we really only scratched the surface.

As excited as I am, I am feeling a little down today - I really hope that doesn't show through (stbx is struggling with our split and he had a very emotional weekend - I hate seeing him like that, it is upsetting even though he brought down this house of cards).

It took me FOREVER to pick out just the right outfit LOL (I was up intil 1AM trying on 3/4ths of my wardrobe!)

What else do I need to remember? Please send me good luck, relax and just have fun vibes...!

Rose
(who is having a lot of fun dating as a single mom!)

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 2:41pm

Congrats on the date! I laughed when I read that you went through 3/4 of your wardrobe. I do that too!

Smile a lot - and come back wtih a good report. If you have known him 14 years that makes it a little easier, I think, at least for conversation. But these first dates are never easy.

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 3:53pm

Rose, I think you should take a breath and just relax!

This will be fun!

Don't think about your ex- his problems, whatever they're from, are not your concern anymore. Any split is hard on all involved, but taking on his troubles and woes and worries will only make it harder for you to move on and be happy about moving on.

So, what are you wearing tonight?

Moody, wishing you well


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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 4:22pm

Hi Moody - I know you are right about my stbx, and frankly, now that the end of the day is that much closer, I am solely focused and excited about dinner.

The funny thing about my outfit is that I had to choose two. One for work today that was impactful but one for work tomorrow too. I am a commuter and Kazoo lives in the city that I work in so we are having a sleepover (I have my own room ;)

Plus I suspect that I will see Kazoo again on Thursday so I pretty much had to map out my entire week's wardrobe. I am a skirt person so skirts for all three outfits. I am pleased with where I netted out considering I had to deal with a major change in temperature as well.

Now I am nervous about eating...isn't that crazy? He is making dinner which makes this much more intimate than if we were going out to eat....I am a bundle of butterflies right now! I can't stop smiling either....I LOVE it!

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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 8:10am

It sounds very exciting- I hope it went well, let us know!

Moody, who still gets butterflies too


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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 3:11pm

Hi Moody - Dinner was really great. He made grilled vegetables and grilled salmon with a greek salad and hummus to start. It was all paired with some really great wines (he used to work for a winery). All in all - it was very impressive and not at all what I expected. He's a natural in the kitchen...which is a great thing because I am not the best cook.

We had some really great conversation and I learned things about him I never would have guessed. Some shocking, some fun, all very interesting and mostly intriguing. He has left me with a lot to think about.

As I mentioned I have known him for many years and we seem to have a very easygoing chemistry between us. It feels really good and yet...it might be more than I can handle considering I am just now getting out of my marriage - I moved into my new place just a week ago. It might be a little too much too soon for me...not sure how to put the breaks on....

Rose

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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 3:15pm
I know exactly how you feel. I myself don't want to slam on the brakes, but would like to shift down a gear. - M2M
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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 5:31pm

Rose, dinner sounds great, and I think it's awesome that he's a good cook. I can barely boil water (no, really) so anyone who can cook gets a gold star!

Conversation that leaves you thinking is usually good- I think it's time early enough to apply the brakes. Don't have any more sleepovers for a while, go out to public places when you can, and simply take your time until you feel comfortable. If he doesn't like that, better to find out now than in six months!

Good luck and keep us posted!

Moody, going full steam ahead, sorta


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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 5:48pm

Wow - his dinner sounds wonderful!! How nice to find someone to cook all that.

I think you just need a little time to let everything sink in. Did you explain that you are needing to go slow because you are new to all of this? Sometimes I find the best way to apply the brakes is just to limit the time spent together - not too much in one day and not too many days a week.

HUGS - keep us posted.

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Thu, 05-24-2007 - 10:21am

Hi Judy - we really don't see each other very much - literally once, maybe twice per week at the most. I think I will take Moody's advice though and plan our next get together out - in public.

Up until now I haven't wanted anyone to know that we have started seeing each other (having been co-workers in a very social environment for so long - we have quite a few common friends). I don't want anyone to think that my marriage ended because another person was involved, because that is just not the case. But the timing is close enough that people will jump to that conclusion (even though my filandering STBX is the one who started the process rolling). Same for Kazoo - he ended an engagement in Feb/March and he doesn't want anyone to think that there was an ulterior motive there either. Technically -I think we are both free to do as we will at this point but I want to leave a respectable amount of space before we go public.

Sooo ...we are bit between a rock and a hard place right now....I'll be looking for some balance over the weekend... hmmmmm...

Rose

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Thu, 05-24-2007 - 1:30pm
Hi M2M - Let me know if you come up with a solution...this one is stumping me... Over the last couple of years when my marriage was going down the tubes, Kazoo was the person I sort of saw myself with. Not necessarily him (since he wasn't available), but someone just like him - his personality and outlook on life. I don't want to lose someone so great because our timing is a couple of months off...and I am gun shy...I am terrified of being in a committed relationship so soon out of the gate...
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