I got my money back! and other stuff

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Registered: 01-26-2005
I got my money back! and other stuff
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:35pm

My ever so lovely *hack hack* ex gave me back my portion of the tax refund he took. He apologized,(too little too late) and gave every penny back. Guess the guilt finally wore him down. Don't care though, I've learned a valuable lesson. Don't trust unworthy ex husbands.

So the new thing is that a coworker of mine wants to set me up. I don't know whether to be scared or thrilled. I know I still have issues to get over, but do I go out just to go out, or what? I mean, after that last fling I know I'm not ready for a relationship, nor at this point do I want one. But should I at least attempt this "blind date"? Gosh, I really do sound like a loser, but I'm so new to this whole thing. Thanks for reading about my great day and my new issue!

Shannon

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:42pm

Congrats on getting the money back. That is good going. And good to see that he took responsibility for his actions.

Now for the second part - the blind date - why not? It would be a nice evening out - you get to dress up - and have adult company - and make a new friend. Keep your expectations low and have a good time.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 11:46am
Have you heard anything about the blind date yet? Keep us posted!! Where are you going? What are you wearing?
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 3:56pm

exes can be such idjits. My ex still thinks I owe him money for different things. He's all about money, though he's never had any.


Good for you! Glad you got it back.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 4:08pm
Sure. Go for the blind date. Why not? It doesn't have to be a fling. It can just be dinner or lunch or whatever you decide to do.
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Registered: 01-26-2005
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 10:38pm

No date planned yet! My coworker and her boyfriend will be doubling along so everyone will feel comfortable. So I'm not quite sure where we are with that. I'm kind of hoping it'll be this weekend, the ex will be working and it'll be a good excuse to chicken out. Nah, I told my mom about this prospect and she seemed thrilled,so I might have a babysitter. I told her that I wasn't too excited, that I wanted to swear off of guys for a while. She told me to go for it, that I needed to get out of the house. She's right, there are only so many times I can go to the bookstore and read the same books. So I didn't have the kids tonight and went out on a shopping trip. I was looking for some new clothes. I just couldn't figure out what to buy. So I bought nothing. Grr, I wear scrubs five days out of the week and on the weekends I'm in jeans and a tee shirt. I really don't think I am physically and mentally able to pull together a nice looking outfit. lol. So not much of an update, but it's a start. Hopefully more of an update soon!!

Shannon

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:26am

Okay, so here's a bit of an update. No date planned, but we had our first conversation on the phone. He was so easy to talk to, and I found myself not clamming up. Which is great because I tend to be a shy person. So I figure all of this is experience. It's getting easier and easier to talk to members of the opposite sex. And I can actually be myself. I remember back in my younger days I was so worried about peoples perceptions that I would try to mold myself into what I thought they wanted. Which I did for the entire 8 years (including the 5 married ones) I did with the ex. It's great to start "finding myself" and sharing it with others! Just had to share. Now I must sleep. I know I will have a hard time getting up tomorrow! Thanks for listening and caring

Shannon

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:36am
Bingo - you are on the right track!!!! Keep us posted!!