I had a date!

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Registered: 10-10-2007
I had a date!
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 11:22pm

We met after work today and ate, walked around by the river a bit, sat and talked for about an hour on a park bench on the rivers edge and then got some ice cream. It was very nice--great conversation--good food--seems like a good connection. He is a recent widower and just started dating again--over the past three weeks he has gone out with a bunch of women off of eHarmony--three before tonight and one next week. He was a little nervous telling me that he was dating a few people before becoming exclusive--which was cute because it's not really unheard of. I figure if nothing else I might end up with a friend (heck, maybe he has friends!) The conversation flowed very naturally, very nice!

April

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 12:01am
Hey, what a GREAT attitude you have!!!
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 12:18am

Well, I'm glad you got out and had fun!

Sounds to me like he was backtracking... like he was looking for an excuse to take you off his list. No guy wants to hear that they won't be a priority LOL!

Any more dates planned, with him or anyone else?

The boy

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In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 10:14am

No other dates planned. I sent him a follow up email (what is this, an interview?) stating that I had fun and that it was nice talking and getting to know him and thanking him for dinner. His reply was "Thanks to you, too. I had a good time and I wish you well on all that you are dealing with as you prepare for law school! Time to clean out the inbox and get to bed! Talk to you soon, T"

April

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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 10:44am

Your date sounds like a good start in getting your feet wet.


I am confused by that--it sounds like a send off yet he writes "talk to you soon"--I guess I just wait and see!


I wouldn't really count on him talking to you soon.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 10:47am

Keep it as an option for a break from the routine, you'll need it soon enough :)

Do you have all your books and classes set out yet?

The boy

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 3:42pm

They schedule my classes for me so that is all set--I picked up the books Tuesday night--my DD carried them to the car for me and they were pretty hefty! I also got a very pretty laptop (Dell--blossom print) that I have set up pretty well with everything I need. I have my first assignment due at orientation on the 27th/28th and I have my first weeks assignments already. Work is planning on me working between 20-25 hours a week and we're negotiating with someone to do a job share type situation with me--only problem is that she can't start until after my orientation is scheduled so we have to find someone to work the 27th and 28th for me but my bosses can work that out--I get vacation time and I haven't used it at all!

April

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 6:48pm
I can't believe it's happening so fast!!
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In reply to: lonleymomx2
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 6:53pm

That's awesome and you have a great attitude about it. Whoo Hoo. Great job getting out there and enjoying the date for what it was without getting ahead of yourself. Sounds like you enjoyed the date.


As for the follow up email. i agree it sounds like a sendoff. But hey, at least he sent something.. these days it seems a guy will just ignore you once he's moved on. right.


I like Alison's suggestion to you to think of dating as a chance to take a break from the routine, studying, etc and less about a fulltime job to find a partner.


I agree with you about not wanting a fulltime, everyday thing... but once a week or every other weekend date. Casual, fun, and classy.


Best wishes,


Loonybunny