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I HATE dating!!!
| Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:34pm |
I seriously HATE dating...I've always hated it, aaaand I hate it even more being a mom.
| Fri, 07-11-2008 - 10:34pm |
I seriously HATE dating...I've always hated it, aaaand I hate it even more being a mom.
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How long have you been talking to/ dating this guy?
I've been dating him for 3 weeks...I know, not a long time, but he was just one of those guys you just seem to click with really easy and there seemed to be a ton of potential
(((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))) I'm sure we can all relate to what you are saying.....
I just want it to be easy<<< Ah, but it's not easy... dating isn't easy, relationships aren't easy, marriage is not easy, etc... Whenever i catch myself saying, why can't it be easy, is when i realise and remember.... life is not easy. So i must become bigger, stronger, smarter, etc.... I
Hey Kiddo,
You took the words right out of my mouth.
kiddo,
I am so there too. I feel for ya. My advice is vent here anytime. God knows I do all too often. And if your guy is playing games or testing then I would next him. But thats just me. I am not into games or testing. I think its all a head game and I dont have time for head games. So you can be yourself and see if you pass the test. But no matter what dont fret over a day or two of non communication. Some folks are busier on certain days of the week. I get very few emails or texts from my friends on weekends as they are busy and not usually in front of their computer.
But be assured I am right there with you. I so hate dating. I hate the game. I am ready for a long term relationship.
Hang in there. When you least expect it someone will pop into your life.
Laurie
Dont apologize for long posts. We all do it.
I was told by a man that internet dating is the perfect place for players. It makes it so easy to have a date or fun with a woman and then just disappear or move on. Its the perfect place for them to lie about their status, what they want and who they are. I think a lot of them bail when we are getting to know who they really are, not who they say they are.
Dont worry. Its not you. Its them. And I dont mean all men (Mark and Mike not included). Just there are a lot of men like that online.
Laurie
Heheheehe (devil laugh!)....well, I think I got him back.
My advice is to and have a good time and not think about him. Go and enjoy yourself on your weekend away with your friend, don't answer your phone if he calls and don't send/reply to texts to him- in fact, best to leave your phone at home for the weekend :) (that's what you tell HIM you've done, anyway)
Three weeks is not a lot of time invested, so if he's not up to it and was sitting on the fence as to whether or not he liked you enough for long term, then it's GREAT that you're doing your own thing! It's going to show him that yes, you were available more to him in the beginning, but that you have a life and he's not always in it. That he will have to compete for you attention, and so far he's indicating that he's NOTICED that- good for you.
So how do you play it a little? No contact til the day after you get back. Minimal information about what you did on your trip other than you had a GREAT time and can't wait to go back. Adds a little intrigue and puts in a few ideas that you're on the radar of other men, just be careful not to try the jealousy card as that could just cause him to walk.
But DO go and have a good time and do not think about him or what he's doing while you're away. Focus on YOU and having a good time- you deserve it! Flirt with guys, dance up a storm and dress yourself up sexy! :)
And DO keep us posted!
Sorry to hear you are so frustrated - I think we have all been in your shoes at one point or another in our "dating careers" so to speak. The sorting process is a PAIN - but at the same time it is also a good challenge when you have a clean slate to really hold the standards high and find a good one that will go long term.
I think as we age we have to take things slower and lower expectations. I know you dearly want a relationship - but you have to tell yourself that it takes time to find a good one and that a lot of time alone in the process is not such a bad thing. And that you really want to take your time to get to know one to see if you are a good mutual match. Maybe if you make the goal a good relationship partner instead of just the relationship you will be more careful/slow and at ease?
The good thing is that you already have your kids - so you don't have a ticking clock - you have your whole life!!
Keep us posted on your dating stories - and welcome!! You will see you are not the only one here!!
Yaye, Alison!
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