I have a boyfriend.....

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I have a boyfriend.....
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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 11:20am
and I couldn't be happier!! I'm still in a phase of shock, I just never thought that this would happen to me...you guys remember I met him at a club when I went with a co-worker since they belong to the similar crowd of friends,....well I met his dad friday night,(only 2nd girl to meet his dad!) and I spent some time there, we watched a movie and had pizza, and then had a long talk about how we see our future, and how he could really see me in his, it's like everything happened so quick, you know, i mean emotionally, but it feels so right, I'm so glad that I waited so long to find, who i thought, would be the right person for me to date...it's just so much more special, we've been talking about him meeting Damian, maybe take him to chuck e cheese since he's 2 and he's only been there once, and he loved it...I just hope he treats him really good......I don't know how to handle the situation with FOB, my boyfriend (feels funny saying that lol), says it's up to me......and we've both never been in a situation like this, I was thinking of just mentioning that I have a boyfriend to FOB...but I'm afraid of everyone's reaction, I have only told my mom that he's my boyfriend, but I haven't mentioned to anyone about him meeting Damian, I'm afraid they're going to try to tell me how to go about doing things, and it's hard hearing it from them, because they've never been in my shoes (unlike us)...you know?? Well, I'm really happy, so I really hope that no one reacts that negative to this...like um, Fob's family, and I really hope that my family is supportive, because I really need them to be....thanx for listening ladies.

 

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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 11:39am

Best of luck to you Roxanne! :) That special moment can just send you reeling doesn't it? :) A wonderful feeling it is! I want to wish you strength, love, and happiness for the coming months where thing may become stressful, or challenging. This is a good thing that has happened to you, and I pray that it all works out for you.

I don't think anyone here would want to see this go south or get ugly...:) We're all looking for it too! :)

Take care, and congrats on the new boyfriend!! ;)

Lisa

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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 11:42am
Well, I think if you're going to have them meet, then doing it at a place where your son will enjoy himself (like ChuckECheese) is a good idea. Keep it brief, keep it causal, keep it fun. Your son is young enough that he won't really "get" what's going on, but if the boyfriend stays around, and keeps coming around, he will get attached. So be prepared for that. Not that it's bad, just something to be aware of.
I would keep it very casual and occassional at first, and just see how it goes. Congratulations!

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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 7:51pm

Why are you so worried about FOB? I would not tell him anything about your personal life - ony stuff about your child.

Just enjoy your new bf for now and if you keep on getting these good vibes then do something fun with DS.

Don't worry about what the others will say - sooner or later they will find out and they won't have a choice in the matter - they can take it or leave it.

I think when your family sees you so happy they will be happy for you.

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Mon, 03-20-2006 - 8:25pm

Well, I'm glad that you've found someone special- how long have you been together now, officially?


I agree with Judy about the FOB thing, it's NONE of his business who you date, how you date, when you date, where you date or why you date.


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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:58pm
I totally agree on that advice you just provided....I too have begun dating a really wonderful man this past month. I am 27 w/3 children and in the midst of my divorce since August. I haven't told anyone basically because I don't want to have to deal with the "criticism" and/or unwanted advice since no one knows best for me than myself. He has met my children already and really it was only introduced to them as this is my friend "David". He told me that even if it didn't work out between us, which he hopes isn't true that if he developed a bond between the children and himself that he would like to remain in contact with them. Up until really this past visit, we refrained from any physical contact in front of the children. They seem to like him but still I am on guard with them, I tell him that I don't want them hurt as well as myself. He's told me that he's falling in love with me. I truly believe him that he does care for me and the children...he's played with them, brought movies over to watch with them and the past 2 visits over has cooked dinner for us..I'm not much of a cook so it was a treat to have food prepared and not nuked in the microwave! I'm just taking it day by day but really this is just one of those times in my life when nothing else matters but my happiness and I am happy to have met him and brought him into my life.
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:44am

Congrats!

I just wanted to share my experience. I was dating bf for 7 months before he met my son. It was a beach outing with a bunch of families and all the kids played with bf so it didn't make anything stand out. He saw bf a couple of times at a friends house during some summer bbq's. It wasn't until we had been together about 11 months that bf came around actively. It really worked out great for us to take things with DS so slow. It gave me the time to be sure of my feelings for bf and him the time to be absolutely sure about me. Kids get attached quickly. My son asks everyday when the next time bf is coming over. My son also makes plans with bf to do things with him, like on Saturday they are going to watch one of the star wars movies.

I am not saying that this is what you should do. I just wanted to tell you about my positive experience. I have seen many of my single mom friends get into a relationship quickly, bring the kids into the picture and things don't work out and the kids get "broken up with" as well.

I think you have to follow your gut on this one.

Good Luck! Keep us posted