I have a CRUSH
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I have a CRUSH
| Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:58am |
....I can't believe it. It's not BE. I feel guilty for even feeling this! He's adorable, he's sweet, and he's in
| Fri, 06-13-2008 - 12:58am |
....I can't believe it. It's not BE. I feel guilty for even feeling this! He's adorable, he's sweet, and he's in
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Is he a good guy... without drama... no drinking problem.... stable employment.... someone you could see things working out with...
or is he attractive because he's unavailable or a bad boy...
If he's a good guy, i say give it
I have been so relieved for you that BE followed through but in large part because you need to see that even with someone who has had some of the hangups he does, you are so worth it! Anyone would eventually jump through hoops for you because they wont want to lose you and yet does that mean that you two are really right for one another? I dont know Pac - I just dont want you to be a hoop holder like I said before. It takes so much darn energy to be that for someone. It takes away from what you are really meant to be in the larger picture, you know?
CityLife said it so well!
Well, I don't know much about him really. I'm intrigued ;o)
hehe...
I don't have the intention at this point of jumping ship with BE or anything BUT I have to admit I'm liking the feeling of noticing other guys. I suddenly feel excited that there are options anyway...KWIM? And wow, this guy is CUTE. OK I gotta stop..LOL!!
Gosh, Soonee- those are such nice things to say! Thank you!! Oh yeah....it really is a confidence booster and I'm loving the "high" of just feeling the attraction. I honestly feel bad for saying that though, after all that really big hoop I just put BE through!
I'm not bailing on BE at this time..but there's nothing wrong with a little flirting with a good guy...is there?
That's exciting, Pacific!!!
The only thing is... if this feeling continues, and you sense that things are really right with the new crush as you get to know one another... just don't stay with BE out of guilt for fear of being "the bad guy". I think that would be easy to do, especially if you've made some demands on BE and he meets them (even if reluctantly)... and then you still break up with him. I know I would feel guilty. But know that it would not be fair to you or BE to stay together out of guilt.
I say to just let things go slowly, and just be honest with yourself. Just how DO you feel about things between you and BE? Just how do you feel about the new crush? (I'm not really looking for a reply here- just ask yourself this) Allow time to pass so you can feel confident that it's not just the newness that is so attractive about the new crush.
Always be true to yourself.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Yeah, the newness and the spark always gets me..I'm kind of a junkie for that feeling. I think I was just so surprised to be thinking of someone else..you know? So I'll just let it ride and get to know him as a friend without intentions. If I was to do more than that then I would be a hypocrite for everything I put BE through in regards to other women.
But hey-I'm diggin the butterflies around the crush ;o)
Pacific....looking forward a bit too much to disc golf today, and not yet oggling at the crush but yet still peering out one eye..lol!
Pac, enjoy it and just see what happens!
Steph
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