I have a date tomorrow

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Registered: 01-26-2005
I have a date tomorrow
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Thu, 03-03-2005 - 11:30pm

and I am so nervous. It is with the guy my coworker set me up with. We have talked on the phone for a week and a half, and I absolutely like this guy. He is so easy to talk with. However, I am terrified. What if he doesn't like what he sees? I've seen a picture of him and he's a cutie. What do I wear? I mean, we're just meeting for coffee, but I'm clueless on what to wear. I was never this nervous with the first guy I dated after my divorce. Gosh, I don't think I will be able to sleep tonight.

Just had to vent.

Shannon

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 11:52pm

Well Congrats!!!!

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:31am

Wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. Go through your closet ahead of time if you can!!

Meeting in person is different from talking on the phone - you are taking a chance because you might not like each other - or you might! Whatever the outcome - have fun - this is one night out of the house for adult company - nothing more at this point. If you don't have expectations then you won't be disappointed.

See if he is good for you - worry about that more than the other way around.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:32am

Shannon,

There was a rather lively conversation on this board about a first date just a bit ago. I looked it up for you - it is here:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsolomother&msg=7853.1&ctx=128

I know that will help a lot and give you good ideas!!

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 8:46am

update, update, update....

Hey Shannon,

How was the coffee date? What did you wear? Tell us all about it!

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 8:31pm

Okay all here's the update, though a bit late. It's funny just how fast the weekend goes. I accomplished a lot, however I did not do one load of laundry. So that's what I'm doing now, trying to fight off whatever illness I think I'm getting. Grrr. So anyway back to my point.
The date went fine. I felt very pretty, which I haven't in a while. I wore jeans with healed boots, and a nice button down shirt. That's about all I can say positive about the night. The conversation was flowing. He bought me a gift. (my favorite movie on dvd) He told me I was attractive. He opened doors for me. However, I just don't know. I mean he's not an unattractive guy, just not my type. But I might just not know what my type is. Since the date, if he hasn't called, I haven't been disappointed, but if he has called it's not like I dreaded talking with him. I'm not anticipating the next date, however it's not like I wouldn't go. I don't know. Maybe I'm just weirded out that someone could be nice. But shouldn't I feel something. He held my hand and I froze up. But I try to rationalize that it's because I haven't been in that situation for a long time, even before the divorce. I just don't have those "butterflies in my stomach." I just don't know what to do now.
Wish it was a better update, boy do I wish
Thanks for reading

Shannon

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 8:50pm

Sleep on it a night - often it takes a day or two for you to formulate the experience in your head.

If he is nice and you are not sure, I would give him a chance to melt you. One more try - maybe more casual?

Often times the first date jitters ruin any sense of chemistry.

But if you do not feel turned on or have the possibility of being turned on in time then you have to cut him loose.

This is all practice and all good stuff.

Thanks for your update!

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 3:03am

Sounds like you just didn't click to well. At least from your side. I would of freaked if a guy would of tried to hold onto my hand for our first date. I've had that happen before and the night just ended for me. I always see a first date as getting to know someone. Seeing if they click with me and that doesn't include touchy feely, no matter how cute he is. That's just me though. Let us know how it continues and thanks for the update! :-)

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 11:16am

I don't know. If you didn't click and didn't have a great time, why WOULD you go again?


Gosh, laying it on kinda thick buying you a gift (other than flowers) for a first date didn't he? That would weird me out completely.


Anyway, it was a step in the right direction.

Becky

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 11:22am
The gift ideas, may be sweet to some people, but that to me is just another red flag! Trying to hard with presents and getting to close touchy feely. YUK! LOL
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 11:35am
That is a good point, Catherine and Becky - I didn't pick up on that - maybe we should add those to our list.

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