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I have a date tomorrow
| Thu, 03-03-2005 - 11:30pm |
and I am so nervous. It is with the guy my coworker set me up with. We have talked on the phone for a week and a half, and I absolutely like this guy. He is so easy to talk with. However, I am terrified. What if he doesn't like what he sees? I've seen a picture of him and he's a cutie. What do I wear? I mean, we're just meeting for coffee, but I'm clueless on what to wear. I was never this nervous with the first guy I dated after my divorce. Gosh, I don't think I will be able to sleep tonight.
Just had to vent.
Shannon

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Good points to you all! The more and more I talk with him the more freaked out I get. He's a great guy, just not for me I guess. The straw for me was tonight while talking, he said he found a sewing machine for me. He bought the sewing machine for me. Now in a previous conversation I did tell him I wanted one. I refused. Usually getting gifts is a great thing for me, but this just left a creepy feeling. So now how do I break this off? I mean, we've been on one date, talk constantly, so how can I do it in a mature way? I've never been on this side of the token before.
Thanks to you all!!
Shannon
I agree that he went over the line with this one.
I think you should be blunt and polite - I am just not ready for dating right now. Or I have decided to put my dating on hold. It has been nice to meet you and I wish you well. Boom. End of discussion.
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
I have to say I agree with this post if you are online dating or have any bad vibes, especially for a single mom.
I had 2 or 3 friends whom I was online dating with - and we started out very honest. But most guys can't handle that and some became very belligerant with calls and emails. One of my friends came up with that saying - it is neat, clean, safe.
Yes - and the sewing machine is scary. My friend had a guy like this on a first blind date - he bought her all sorts of stuff. Spooked her - and she gave him the boot, too.
The most horrible blind date I ever had - with this guy I met online - who was okay on the phone but in person really rude to the waitress - and he stared at me. I could not wait for the night to be over and hurried as best I could. He called to make sure I got home okay. And then he sent an email that same night to go out again. The next day I told him I wasn't ready to date yet and was putting my dating on hold but thanks anyway - and even then he sent nasty emails saying I was probably married or something. Plus he would call my cell with his caller id turned off (GEEZ - I wonder WHO that is?!!). And he kept sending me mean messages. I don't want to imagine what he would have done if I would have told him the truth!!
The really funny thing is that a few months later I was out riding my bike with 2 women - both divorced - and one was talking about her online dating experiences. She is a professor of biology at a university here - and has written numerous children's books - some of which I own. Anyway she started describing a recent bad date. I asked her what his profile was - and guess what? IT WAS THE SAME MAN!! We both agreed he was a total loser.
Better safe than sorry. If it was someone who was a friend of a friend or a long time aquaintance then yes, it is best to gently tell the truth.
Edited 3/11/2005 9:00 pm ET ET by west1745
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