I have the key, but can I use it??

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I have the key, but can I use it??
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 1:16pm

~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:50pm

Hugs to you back Shrimpy!


Yep, it SUCKS sometimes being true!!! I mean, knowing what is right and doing what is needed can be really hard. Yet at the same time I said my peace and even IF I tried to go back to blindness I think it's too late...I laid my cards on the table for him to see and I can't change that, and that's probably a good thing.


I think it is not only our lifestyle differences that we are seeing. But also it is the reality that if we spent our lives together he would be taking on DD as well as me. He loves her but he raised two daughters already and maybe he's not sure about going through it again. I can't fault him for that but I will need to know that now and not later.


Thanks for you words :o)


~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 12:56pm

Thanks for this post, City

~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:43pm

Hi Pacs!

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:45pm

You are looking at this the right way--if BE is holding you back and isn't planning to move forward than you really need to know now.

April

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:06pm

Pac-Sun - I just want to reach through my computer and give you a big hug.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:20pm

~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:29pm

Pacific,

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:31pm

Thank you, April-


You're right about that and is up to me as much as up to him. Funny how shifts in a relationship make one begin to feel powerless and at their mercy- until you get you sight back and realize you have just as much vision and decision making :o)

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:33pm

until you get you sight back and realize you have just as much vision and decision making :o)until you get you sight back and realize you have just as much vision and decision making :o)


This is so true!

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:56pm

Keeping myself busy and getting into my own paasions and with friends of my own it exactly what I need to do, just like you are now doing. And I've seen that too in the past- when I bust myself that is when guys come around more...they look for that stong independant woman- not the clinging needy one.


Key in hand.

~Pacific~