I would put him to rest. To me it is too fishy that he managed to have a baby with someone else and left you without an explanation. Time for new beginnings!! You want the guy who is ready now and really into you and who won't pull a stunt like that. I would not contact him anymore - because more contact equals more feelings which equals not being able to be open minded about someone else.
I think we all have someone we have loved who just wasn't right for us. The best goal, in my opinion, is to want someone who views you as MsRight and who cherishes you and treats you well and who is capable of a healthy relationship. And this doesn't mean pining for the wrong person - it means getting out there and meeting a lot of people til you find one like that.
I completely agree with West and a little tidbit I wanted to add is that if you do decide to pursue any kind of contact with him you will be "the other woman".
I would put him to rest. To me it is too fishy that he managed to have a baby with someone else and left you without an explanation. Time for new beginnings!! You want the guy who is ready now and really into you and who won't pull a stunt like that. I would not contact him anymore - because more contact equals more feelings which equals not being able to be open minded about someone else.
I think we all have someone we have loved who just wasn't right for us. The best goal, in my opinion, is to want someone who views you as MsRight and who cherishes you and treats you well and who is capable of a healthy relationship. And this doesn't mean pining for the wrong person - it means getting out there and meeting a lot of people til you find one like that.
Good luck and keep us posted!
I completely agree with West and a little tidbit I wanted to add is that if you do decide to pursue any kind of contact with him you will be "the other woman".