I have my answer

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I have my answer
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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 2:05am

Wow, you all will not believe what has happened tonight... and please don't tell me i'm the one who screwed things up... i think TG just had his own issues and i was about to get caught in the middle... i feel better off right now... that might change tomorrow... we'll see.


Here's the story... at 10 pm tonight TG sent a text saying... "i'm not going to be home tonite"... and i thought... OMG.. not again.. i called him and it rang twice and went voicemail... obviously he hit the ignore button.. so i left a message saying "what's up, call me"... then i sent a text.. "do you still want to meet up"...


he replied with a text... i'm going to penn. i have alot of

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 8:10am

Wow. I dont know what happened & why.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 8:32am
Oh! As for Sean. I would absolutely stay away for a while. & this is coming from someone who as you know, has no issues w/ the FWB thing. BUT, you are WAY too vulnerable right now - AND in the coming few weeks at least, IMHO.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 8:40am
Hugs Loony!
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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:14am

Oh wow- I'm sorry about this, LB! I'm not even sure what to say.


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:50am

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:54am
wow. It *almost* sounds like TG was trying to pick something with you so he could blow up (the f u you don't trust me text) and I don't blame you for being confused. I agree, perhaps going to the house & neighbors may have been over the top, but hindsight right? I think you're handling things well, and also agree Sean should be kept at a distance until you have to space between breaking up with TG and really healing, even tho its been a month, you still developed feelings and need to mourn the breakup, if that is what happened and just go from there. Wow. I'm also kind of speechless. The weirdest things can happen when you think things are doing alright hey?

 

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 10:43am

After re-reading everything... I also agree that to go over to the neighbors and drill his roommate for info was a bit over the top. Seeing it from TG's point of view- if he sent a text saying he was cancelling, and then to find out that you went over there anyway- and was asking them all about things, I could understand why he would say you didn't trust him. Because you DON'T trust him!!! You've said it yourself all along that you were surpised that he hasn't ghosted already and was surprised that he actually wanted to see you so much. Why WOULDN'T he want to see you so much?!?? You are a great girl! But for whatever reason- you were already bracing yourself for his "run"... and maybe he felt it too.


Though I do agree that his reaction to it all after that (I'm sure he heard from his roommate that you were over there)- was quite a huge LASH-OUT for just how "minor" it really could be. It just turned into a huge deal for some reason!! So yeah- I agree with you that there might be some trust issues with him as well.


I wonder what he would've done if you would've left him alone after he started pulling back and cancelling things, and you didn't even question it, but just went on your own way, and did your own thing? I know HE was the one expressing all these words of love and forever types of things, not YOU... but still if he didn't really mean it, he shoudn't have been saying them. I'm glad you were taking those phrases in with a grain of salt- and not really trusting the words, because you know it was too soon for those words to be real. Twitterpated, I say!!


Ah, so much of a ride in one month. I don't blame you for not trusting him in such a short time- as it really is just a short time. But his talk about "you're the one for me" types of things would've had me running already- because it's too soon for that to be real. Maybe he scared himself with it after thinking it over, who knows?


More hugs, and a truckload of chocolate, too


~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 11:16am

ITA.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 11:26am

I'll add my ITA to Savannah's to Shrimps post.

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Sat, 05-10-2008 - 11:42am

And I will chime in with Soonee, Shrimps and Savannah - there is nothing you could do Loony. He did TMTFTS and he crashed. I so know how that feels because MA was also that way and in the end he drove me so crazy I broke it off - even though I tried to slow him down - there was NO WAY to slow him down - it was like a crazy train.

Loony, I think you had fun while you were with him - and you have the experience of a guy who is into you. And now unfortunately you also have the experience of TMTFTS - so hopefully even though it is upsetting now you can better see and avoid that sort of thing in the future. I think he is just young and got carried away in the moment and then scared or flipped out about where that took him.

HUGS! I hope you can feel better soon.

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