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| Sat, 05-10-2008 - 2:05am |
Wow, you all will not believe what has happened tonight... and please don't tell me i'm the one who screwed things up... i think TG just had his own issues and i was about to get caught in the middle... i feel better off right now... that might change tomorrow... we'll see.
Here's the story... at 10 pm tonight TG sent a text saying... "i'm not going to be home tonite"... and i thought... OMG.. not again.. i called him and it rang twice and went voicemail... obviously he hit the ignore button.. so i left a message saying "what's up, call me"... then i sent a text.. "do you still want to meet up"...
he replied with a text... i'm going to penn. i have alot of

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Sorry things turned out this way.
Thanks everyone for the support and words of experience and wisdom....
I drove to va beach this morning to watch my old coworker play softball.... my old team.... i was able to drink a couple beers and share some fun stories... i'm glad i was able to spend the afternoon with golden friends... and they heard about my new boyfriend and i said, yeah we just broke up last night...
Then Sean started calling and texting again.... so i told my coworkers... oh, its my other boyfriend... a Navy Seal who just got back from Iraq..... they got a laugh out of that... (i had many laughs this afternoon...)
Oh, and i had a long time to think on the drive to the beach.... i thought, i didn't do anything "wrong"... i was true to myself... i never did reply to TG's "f u" text and i have no intention of doing so....
About the trust thing... that's right i didn't trust him... and wisely so....but he knew that already ... so i feel he overreacted with the "f u".. and "i never want to see you again."... that's extreme i think...
A stand up guy, would have called me ... explained where he was going and when he was coming back... so that i wouldn't worry... I sensed it from the "i won't be home tonight" text and when he didn't answer... that something was very wrong... i agree that i think he was just looking for an excuse to get mad and send the mean text...
IF i didn't go to the neighbors... and essentially got my answer... i would have spent all day today and all weekend a nervous wreck..
Wow, he sounds even MORE like my ex after what you just wrote.....just be happy you spared yourself the heartache that would come
~~Tiny
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~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ
In an odd way... this whole thing reminds me of a relationship i had back when i was 18..... (right before my boyfriend Florida)....
Anyways, i met this cute sweet guy.. we dated for 3 months... til finally he asked me to be his girlfriend.. i was head over heals and took it very seriously.... about a month into it... he flaked one night.... then flaked the next night too.. I was sicken.. this was before cell phones and text messages ... he lived in the barracks and there was only a community phone.. so i asked to speak to his pal... i knew him well because we had gone out as a group... anyway.. the first night his friend said to me... i can't say anything but if he's a man he'll tell you the truth... what truth? i asked... his friend said, if he doesn't come clean himself, then i'll tell you everything tomorrow.
needless to say.. flaky boy didn't come clean... his friend filled me in as promised..(i haven't thought about that night in all these years.) So this is what he said,... remember how said he didn't smoke, well he does. remember how he said he didn't swear, he does... remember how he said he didn't drink, he does. I was SHOCKED... apparently flakyboy was being a completely different person when he was around me to impress me... and just couldn't keep up the act any longer... Go figure.. like i said i had NO clue and was shocked... it took me all summer to get over him.... then i met Florida Guy... the first night, i told Florida my bad recent relationship.. and Florida said, "one thing about me is i will always tell you the truth..." he said," I swear, smoke and drink"...lol.... I fell in love with Florida btw... and i still keep in contact with him.... to this day Florida still says he love me... it's sweet... but like i've said, i've come to accept we won't be together but always will be a part of each others lives...
I think when experiences cause us to reflect on something in our past... if I can learn, heal and grow... then it's a good thing.. I forgive flakyboy for lying to me too...
So i suspect something similar was up with TG... just a sense i have. I'm better off now... i feel.
Loonybunny
As women (I think most men too) we are intuitive creatures, we KNOW when SOMETHING is up.
i'm sure you are right about the flakiness.... which means... that if TG calls on sunday or whenever and tries to explain... i should still walk away.... and never look back.
the only thing is he was borrowing my camera... and it's a good camera... so the dreaded, last contact just to get my stuff back... i hope it doesnt get ugly. i'm gonna miss a
hmmmmm....Sean??? does everyone think i should stay away.....? okay, so maybe i do think he actually likes me for more than just an FWB... (or as guys call it FB....lol... i know this)... am i stupid for believing him when he said he's been fantasing about me all this time... on the phone, it almost seemed like he was trying to say he cares about me... and i know him enough to know, he wouldn't say that just to have sex... he would just keep talking dirty to me to have sex....which usually works... lol.
I'm flattered that he thinks so much about me, even if it is sex...it makes me feel like a sex goddess or something... and that's a sexy feeling...lol....
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