I have a new flame that is hot, hot, hot
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I have a new flame that is hot, hot, hot
| Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:23pm |
Well, I have been lurking (I did do an intro. note a few weeks ago) but, I do have a nice little flame going on. I have been dating a guy for a little over two months. We don't see eachother a whole lot because, I have my little boys most of the time (dad takes them 2 weekends out of 5, he does shift work and lives about 60 miles away). And my sweetie has a teenage daugher who stays with him Tuesdays and every other weekend. Add work, school, and extracurricular activities and, well, you know how it can be! Luckily, he is self employed (very successfully) so, we meet for lunch a few days a week (when the kids are at school) and get together a few times a month on weekends. We have had dinner with all our kids but, it was put forward totally as a "friends" thing. Of course, his daughter knows better, I'd imagine. But she is a lovely girl and mom and dad have been divorced for about 11 years so, she is on a pretty even keel with things. I have only been split from my stbxh since early Jan. so, I am trying to take things slow BUT, this guy and I have SO much in common and we really do like each other (he is very attentive with calls, flowers, making plans and tells me how he wants to see more of me - he is a very attentive lover - YAY!!). We talk on the phone every night and actually had phone sex once or twice (this was a first for the both of us but, I totally reccomend it!!! HOT!!! I talked him into it so, he now knows I'm a little naughty!). One thing I really like (asside from his sparkling personality, great sense of humor, professional and personal integrity and SO much more) is that he is tall and muscular. My stbxh was about the same size as me (5'8 - we actually wore the same shoe size). My new man is about 5'11...I LOVE it!!!! We just "fit". Am very happy but, wish we could see more of eachother. We both say...Rome was not built in a day and know things need to move slowly for everyone involved but, especially my little boys (ages 5 and 8). Add in the stress of going through a divorce (we are close on a separation agreement so that will be a relief). It's just so hard but, good at the same time.

Your new guy sounds great!! And it is awesome that he is so attentive. I know thats one thing I will be looking for when I get around to dating!
--tj
It sounds like things are going well for you with the new man. I would just caution you to be careful to take things slowly, but I also know how impossible that is sometimes.
Good luck with the seperation, and keep us posted!
Moody, who also likes them tall
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Hi Amyality and welcome!
It is great that you found someone you like so well - you certainly type happy thoughts here. It is best at this time to go slow because a lot of things still have to settle in after the divorce. But it sounds like you are trying to keep things slow and that you have enough in both your lives to help you with that.
It is great he is successful and has been divorced a long time and it sounds like he is a great dad, too.
How did you meet him?
Thanks for the warm welcome! I met him on Yahoo personals. I wanted to see who was out there in the dating pool now-a-days so I created a non-searchable profile and was totally not going to contact anyone but, I couldn't resist contacting this one man. I could tell that I should - his profile was really short but, I could tell from his bio. picture that he was hiking in the mountains when the pic. was taken and he had the nicest eyes/smile. So, I did contact him and the rest is history! It's werid, his daughter is really good friends with my niece (I am living with my SIS/BIL/niece for one more week, settle on a cute little cape cod April 30...so excited).
Anyhoo, we all went on a picnic at my new community beach today. It was very relaxed, yummy and nice. This was the second time the 5 of us have gotten together for a meal and it seemed to go pretty smoothly, nobody was trying too hard or anything and the weather was purrrrrrfect. Will be even better next weekend when our x's have the kids and we can kick up our heels together! This nearby historic park is having a big plant sale we want to go. We are working on a community garden plat together so, we are going to buy some plants for it and our yards. Will be fun, I think!
Also weird...I was walking towards him (his name is Bill, btw, but I usually call him William James) on the beach and I was thinking I should ask him about his old/sick dog. When I got up to him he said: "Beardog isn't doing well". I told him that I was just about to ask him about Beardog and how sorry I was to hear he was doing poorly. Then I turned to his daugheter to tell her how weird it was we were thinking the same thing and she said: "Man I was just thinking about Beardog". Weird, hugh? It was like this psychic fluke triangle!