I have a question......(TMI Warning!!)
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I have a question......(TMI Warning!!)
| Thu, 04-20-2006 - 4:17pm |
okay, so I have been dating Mike for 2 months now, and we have not "done it" yet. Mike has actually never "done it" with ANYONE.....we have tried a couple of times to do it, but he gets too nervous, and loses his hard-on....he says I'm only the second girl he has EVER wanted to do it with. Any ideas how I could get him to be not so nervous??? We've done everything but have sex, so I know it works....(lol)



Janet, have you tried doing something else first, to erm, release his "tension"? (Think with your mouth and/or hands) Maybe if he wasn't so bottled up, so to speak, he wouldn't be as nervous.
I'm also thinking since you obviously love this man, and he loves you, you must talk about it. What's he nervous about? Is it something specific, or just general nerves because he's never done it?
One more thing, just to make sure- has he had a regular, recent physical? Sometimes men can lose their gumption if they are suffering from a number of hidden ailments, and that's the indicator before other symptoms. I'm sure in the case, that isn't the problem, but just making sure.
I think practice, practice, practice... and no one gets any blame here. He needs to know that you love him (I'm sure he does), and you need to know that this has nothing to do with how much he loves you (I'm also sure you do).
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Well, like Tina said, practice, practice, practice!
I recently read a book "Little Earthquakes" by Jennifer Weiner.