I have a story to tell...might be long!

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I have a story to tell...might be long!
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 12:00pm

I will try to keep this relatively simple but its not a simple story...but it is a rather happy one but if I get long winded I apologize!

Okay, last year I met and became friends with a guy from my church. Simple enough. What was not simple is that he was currently involved in a two year mission service for the church wherein he was not to be dating so while we became close friends dating was not an option (although as friends we went to the park, made meals together, chatted on the phone). It became quite obvious that out feelings were much deeper than friendship but we were at a loss as to what do with them. This friendship developed over an eight month period and because of the boundaries placed on us the whole "physical" aspect did not interfere with us getting to know each other, while we certainly felt physical attraction we never became "blinded by lust" and so I felt confident that our friendship was truly based on a solid foundation, however as our feelings grew it also became obvious that it was becoming more and more difficult to maintain the necessary boundaries. Our emotional closeness was drawing us together and if it were not for his service committment we would have been together (not int he physical sense but as a couple). Due to this we decided it was best that he be sent somehwere else to finish this religous committment which at the time was another year (last July) andif after a year we still felt the same we could pursue it. We could not communicate for that year. Since he cannot date it was a no brainer on his part regarding dating however for me there was nothing to stop me from dating, he would not request I not date and I would not committ to that anyway. As it turns out I have not found anyone to catch my interest enough adn while I have spent the time since last July wiht my family, developing my friendships D was always in the back of my mind. We exchanged jounrals before he left to write down thoughts and give back to each other after a year, and I did this. Okay, fast forward to last Friday. I am sitting at work, looking out my window and who comes sauntering across the parking lot but D. I very nearly fell out of my chair. He comes into the clinic and we talk (I felt like I was dreaming) and set up a time for supper at a mutual friends home. We spend three hourse talking, laughing and then he needed to leave and go back as it was only a temporary assignemtn that brought him back to my town. Now there is still 2 months left before he is completely finished but it was obvious to us that the connection was still strong, our friendship still close. He is a special person and our mutual friends are very excited for us and what we may have together. I am no fool adn do not beleive that "love" is all roses but definately worth the effort required. I beleive I have found someone special and that what I wanted so badly to explore last year will become a reality in a matter of weeks. I do not really need advice, trust me I have written several journals regarding this situtation adn have examined every possible angle and feeling (I have had LOTS of time to think) I suppose I just wanted to tell my story. I never really spoke about it but now it is all becoming real again and I just needed to tell someone. Anyway, thats my story.

Lisa

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 6:07am
OOOH - I just love stories like these. This one sounds very special and like it should be a movie. Keep us posted. How wonderful!!
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