i just dont get it " HELLO"

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Registered: 06-03-2004
i just dont get it " HELLO"
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 3:58pm
PEOPLE SAY THAT LOVE IS BLIND, SO WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? DOES IT MEAN WE SEE ONLY WHAT WE WONT TO SEE, OR DOES IT MEAN THAT WE ARE SO STUPID THAT WE CANT SEE HOW MUCH OF A JERK HE REALY IS, OR DOES IT MEAN THAT WE ARE SO BLIND ANYTHING LOOKS GOOD. I DONT REALY GET THE HOLE LOVE IS BLIND THING... WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO YOU?
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 4:05pm
When you love someone-- those normal flaws that other people see- like hes over weight or has acne or has a annoying voice or some bad habits --- what have you -- you simply do not see then as flaws because you love and accept every detail.
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Registered: 06-03-2004
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 5:38pm
well damn if love is that blind i just woke up,my boyfriend of 5 years is a real jerk.he is so stuck on him self,and he is selfish he thinks he should come first. iam glad i woke up before it was to late.. belive me when i say he is a jerk, i cant belive i wasted 5 years........thank you
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 5:41pm

Welcome
To me the saying "love is blind" can mean one of two things. Either we love someone (or think we do) so much we fail to see their bad parts even to our own detriment. That's usually those of us who are insecure or don't have enough self-respect to put our own needs up there as a priority. I think most of us have had a relationship like that. And then (hopefully) the blinders come off and you start seeing the bad outweighs the good and you run.

OR it can mean you love the person in spite of their faults and bad qualities. Hey, everyone has something. None of us is perfect. And you love the person even though they may be horrible with money or they may be a real mess when it comes to balancing work and family, or whatever it is. But those are usually the kind of faults or bad qualities where you can work around and work on it. These are not the kind of thing like the person is abusive. To me that's not something you work around.

That's what it means to me.

Hope you're not in the first scenario.

Hugs
Tara

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Tue, 11-30-2004 - 6:42pm

I'm in the "I love him in spite of his faults" category, but I've been the insecure, fragile idiot that would do anything just to have attention from a man.

Glad I'm not there anymore.

Shane, bless his heart, is so sweet, but he's a slob. And he's not good at balancing his priorities. He's horrible with money and he's sometimes too impulsive. Take today, for example. He comes home and announces he had the chance to buy the coolest thing ever today. It was an autographed football of the 1969 Texas Longhorns. It was $500. Sure it woul dbe cool and I'd love him to have it, but he can't. We have to shell out $1300 tomorrow at closing. We were unaware until two weeks ago that we'd have to do that and that was to be our Christmas. Or a lot of it was anyway. Of course, I'd have been pissed if he bought it because I'd have lost the chance to get him a present on my own. His impulsive side makes him buy something right away if he likes it. So I rarely get the chance to get him anything cool because he usually gets to it first. But dang it, I love him. I'm moody and sensitive and very dramatic and I worry too much. It stresses him out, but he loves me.

Annoyed at times or not, we just fit.

Mel

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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 6:43pm

Just consider yourself lucky that you woke up and didn't marry this guy. Love is blind, but we sometimes regain our sight and dump the jerks!

Mel

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