I know I am a weenie for disappearing!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
I know I am a weenie for disappearing!
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 4:31pm
things have been crazy here! I am getting so much work! YAY! And I am designing MY FAVORITE THING - scrapbook lines! I have my dream job - from home!!!! I just pray it keeps going. I am also doing a website and Jack is helping me.

We haven't seen each other in a month and a half but talk about 2 times a week minimum. We are both dating and getting out. We might see a movie in the afternoon on Sunday. We have agreed that we want to be friends and start over. Things have been crazy for him as his family is going through some major uphevel. The good thing is his mom and dad DID put 2 and 2 togther about me (the race) and didn't freak out LOL! He is starting to figure out that when it comes to how people really feel - I am almost always right. ;)

I am not counting on anything but it is nice to know he isn't going any where. I love him very much and I am glad he is still in my life. Now, how to not be IN love with him.....

Other than that I am metting people and enjoying it for the most part. I have been emailing a guy off yahoo too that I really like. But we are just friends - at least right now.

I am concentrated on work like I said and loving it. I am sitll not organized but I am working on it. Anyone want to come over and raid my closet/cabinets/basement? I have enough stuff for 3 homes! ACK! I feel like throwing it on the lawn with a big FREE sign!

LOL - hope all is well - i am off to pick up the little chicky!

Laura

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 9:38am
It's amazing to me that you can stay friends with Jack. I have a no contact policy in place with my ex. He would have stayed friends with me, but it would have hurt me terribly. I am falling out of love with him. Each day that I don't hear from him, I love him a little less. It would really make me sad if I stayed in touch with him and he was dating other women. I would be crushed. I told him that if he missed me (as a woman, not a friend), then he could call me. He hasn't...so there's my answer.

I figure if I want to get in touch with my ex at some point in the future (i mean, several months or a couple of years), I can do that. He'd be open to it. But, I'll probably move on and not give him a second thought. It sucks, but it feels better to get it over with completely (now).

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 5:35pm
You sound good and are obviously okay with where everything is at. I don't know what else to say except good luck and keep us posted. We are always here for you.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 9:32pm
that is good that you are gettin gover it. I on the other hand fall more IN love with him the longer we go without talking. It isn't like "Oh a weeks gone by and I feel better" and it isn't that I feel worse. It is just I get more certain that I really do love him deeply. I suppose I haven't let go of hope but then again, my first fiancee who was my second major boyfriend - someone I loved deeply and was engaged to at 19 - I stayed friends with him and watched his life unfold and although some of it was painful I am SO glad I did it. I value him as a friend so much. I feel sad for him because he married a SHREW but oh well. I am glad we didn't marry but I still love him and I am so glad that I kept that bond. I suppose it is easy to fall out of love with a lover. I think it is hard if not impossible to do so with a friend. JMO

Glad you are going better though!

Laura