I know I have to stop

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2008
I know I have to stop
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Sat, 01-03-2009 - 11:00pm

Please bear with me as none of my girlfriends picked up their phone just now when I tried calling them.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 8:33am
Hi,
I'm not a veteran by any means but I've had the same type of experiences online. More than once I've started talking to someone for a few days, week or so then for no apparent reason they will just ghost. Makes you wonder what goes on in their brains. Don't take it too hard or personally, just chalk it up to online chatting experience. NEXT........
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 9:53am

I totally agree, it stinks when they stop responding.


What I find even worse is when you meet and then the communication stops for whatever reason.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 10:16am

I know exactly how you feel. Loneliness can make you feel kind of desperate when you do OLD. I have had this experience of people ghosting on line more times than I can count.

There was even one guy who I had been talking to, got to exchanging "real" email addresses, then I heard nothing for days, then he appeared a week later on my "viewed you" list. That happened a couple more times so I sent a "what's the deal" email, he responded with some BS (he had been on-line daily during all this time). Finally, I quit that site and lo and behold, he shows up on my "interested in you" page on Match. WTF?

Some people are flakes and this is all a big game to them. I would say, tell yourself that this is a game to you too. YOU have the power to say 'yes' or 'no'. Don't get emotionally wrapped up in anyone until you actually MEET them and have seen them a few times. Until that point, it is all shopping. You don't know them, they don't know you. It's like having a nice conversation while on line at the grocery store. No preconceived notions that this person is 'the one', you just are in the moment and you move on and never think of them again, unless THEY make the next move.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 11:39am

Thank you everyone for letting me venting and giving me such great advice.


Startover 96 thanks for sharing your WTF story because it made me finally understand that just because I am together and ready not everyone else is and not to take any of

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 5:19pm

Ok, it's been almost a couple years since I did the OLD thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 5:38pm
Just wanted to give you all an update.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:03pm

Sounds like a major game player to me!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 6:56pm
The 2 cities are only 2 miles apart;
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:28pm

There was a great relationship post a while back that momuk2socal posted. One of the points in it said-

"I know what is meant for me will not pass me by. I know there is no need to rush things or make them be anything other than what they are. I am content with allowing things to grow at their own pace."

I have thought of that a few times recently, it really struck a cord with me. I need to just let things happen more rather than trying to control the journey. Its a great article- scroll back through and read it if you get time.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-03-2008
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 7:56pm

I absolutely love quotes and thank you for that wonderful one.

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