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I met someone
| Sun, 04-17-2005 - 9:54am |
Hi all,
I just thought I would drop you a line and let you know that I did go ahead and put a personal ad out there. At first I got what I expected, which was mostly guys who figured I was a single mom with 5 kids and I would be easy to get into bed.
Then, I started getting some nicer guys responding, but still not what I was looking for.
And then, there he was. His name is Jim. He IM'd me one day and just swept me off my feet. He lives not too far away, so we decided to meet each other.
I was nervous and excited. I got there and called my friend to let her know I made it ok. She was so funny, she called me a couple minutes later and asked me what I thought about him.
We had a wonderful time together. We talked about a lot of things. He's a wonderful kisser. He wrote me a poem. It was beautiful.
He has 2 children. His son is 10 and his daughter turns 7 today. His divorce will be final next month, mine won't be final until August.
Anyway, we hit it off so well that I took my profile off the site. I am so excited. I can't believe I met him. He is wonderful and I am so happy. I hope it keeps on like this.
All the Best,
jean
I just thought I would drop you a line and let you know that I did go ahead and put a personal ad out there. At first I got what I expected, which was mostly guys who figured I was a single mom with 5 kids and I would be easy to get into bed.
Then, I started getting some nicer guys responding, but still not what I was looking for.
And then, there he was. His name is Jim. He IM'd me one day and just swept me off my feet. He lives not too far away, so we decided to meet each other.
I was nervous and excited. I got there and called my friend to let her know I made it ok. She was so funny, she called me a couple minutes later and asked me what I thought about him.
We had a wonderful time together. We talked about a lot of things. He's a wonderful kisser. He wrote me a poem. It was beautiful.
He has 2 children. His son is 10 and his daughter turns 7 today. His divorce will be final next month, mine won't be final until August.
Anyway, we hit it off so well that I took my profile off the site. I am so excited. I can't believe I met him. He is wonderful and I am so happy. I hope it keeps on like this.
All the Best,
jean

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Congrats, and like previous poster said, Keep your options and your eyes open. I can understand your excitement, but it's important to remember to keep a level head about it all. Not saying things won't work out, but it's soon still. Good luck and have fun.
Jazzy.
Thanks for the replies and advice.
He actually has asked me to see him exclusively. He also deleted his profile.
I know it's still so new and early in the relationship, but I truly enjoy his company.
I also enjoy the compliments he gives me. I have never had anyone do that before!
He is very attractive and sweet and he plainly adores me! He also has no problem with the fact that I have 5 children. I think he's wonderful and I can't wait to get to know him better.
All the Best,
jean
I agree with the others about tempering your excitement. When you hit it off with someone, it always feels great. But you don't want to hope that it keeps up until after you get to know him better, know his values (in practice, not based on what he says his values are), how he acts under pressure (time always tells) and whether you two really are compatible.
I think it's fine to take your profile down. When I met my bf I took it down because I kept getting replies from other people, and I was afraid I'd get an email from someone I was tempted to get to know, and that I'd be stuck saying no, I met someone, because I was serious about seeing where things went with my bf before I explored any other options.
You sound happy.
I would just like to say that I think you should put a little chill on your enthusiasm because neither of you are yet divorced. And you have to be sure of his REAL intentions. He could be really into you - or really into having a physical relationship to celebrate his new found freedom.
I did a lot of online dating and found that guys who were separated or not divorced for very long were more into a sexual fling than a relationship that went beyond 3 months.
At any rate, I do wish you well. It is very encouraging that he wants exclusivity and that you enjoy his company and his compliments.
Keep us posted!!
Jean, like the previous posters I wish you all the best. I am happy for you. I'd like to mention a few other things I found to be true for me. It is very easy to develop strong feelings for a man who is really nice to you after being with someone for a long time who doesn't treat you right. And with 5 kids, I imagine you feel (like I did and still sometimes do with 3) like it will be really really hard to find a man willing to put up with the baggage. And it may well take a really special person but don't settle for the first one who treats you right, before you really know him. And remember what one man I dated briefly said so well, your kids aren't baggage they are blessings, and the right man will accept and embrace that.
I personally became involved with a man I thought was perfect...good looking, educated, treated me like a princess. Said and did all the right things. He was the one who pointed out to me, that he was really the first man who had been really GOOD to me in a long time. We dated for a while, and I began to realize this man is a southern born and bred, dyed in the wool, racist. Which I can't deal with, obviously he has NO future with my kids and so he's out of there. But my point is, it took me a long time to realize he isn't perfect, and not even close. But he had just swept me off my feet, like your guy has, by being (seemingly) the perfect man. He was the first one I dated, and I think it was wonderful to be seen as attractive to someone, because for so many years I felt like a Mom and not a sexual woman, and he boosted me ego sky high, but he wasn't right for me in the end. Of course we ended up having sex 5 times...yes, 5! on that first date (I know, but we had been talking on the phone for weeks and weeks, were going to an Eric Clapton concert, had talked about sex a lot and I guess I told him if he plays I Shot the Sherriff we would, and it was the first song, the wine was flowing, and it had been a long long time)
I guess my point is, have a great time, but be cautious. Take your time getting to really know him before you decide he's the one for you. Keep your options open.
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