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I need to be honest and I hope its ok
| Tue, 12-28-2004 - 5:28pm |
Best of luck all!!
MaryBeth
Edited 12/29/2004 10:31 am ET ET by mbfun
MaryBeth
Edited 12/29/2004 10:31 am ET ET by mbfun

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We have a lot of people who come and post here who aren't single, or moms...some are even men.
Some of us have been here a long time and have developed a rapport...there are a few women here I really love and trust and like to post with. And they've been single moms and know where I am now. If they go, I'd be going too. I hope that doesn't hurt anyone's feelings either. I don't think it's up to any of us to ask anyone to leave, actually. If you don't want to discuss a particular subject, don't. There are people I don't ever respond to, for one reason or another.
Have we had single mom's volunteer to step up for CL?
I can take it MB! ;)
I am not in the slightest offended. Tara and I and other members actually have discussed
First..I don't have an strong opinion one way or the other.
But, I'm wondering, how many of us are married and how many of us are single.
Kim
I STRONGLY disagree with you on this topic, MB.
First of all, the married ladies here were at one time single moms and I find their stories and advice to be of UTMOST importance. I learn from them every day.
It encourages me to see so many of them happy and in stable relationships - it has given me a lot of hope.
The more the "marrier" so to speak.
NO comountainsprite - you must not give up this board!!!
Wow - this statement by you MADE MY DAY:
"The fact that I did find someone, and someone who never even thought he wanted kids much less was looking to date a single mom."
:-)
Please share your story of how you met and did that!! I wish I was on the board earlier so I would know your story. I love to hear these stories.
This is the best board because it is woman who are grounded to reality with children and I love all the topics, including Mel's posts - she has given me more realistic expectations for what it is like to marry when you have a child and for what married life is like the second time around. Her posts are always so much fun - I admire Mel because she has not lost her "little girl" - we all need to be positive and have a little girl in us.
I thought the same thing when I got here. I just figured the people who stuck around after getting married had a rapport with the others on the board, and since I was new I wouldn't say anything. I go to other boards, but this is the only one I've regularly sought advice on (I'm usually the advice giver). All these single mom and dating issues are new to me (the reason I am here), and I do appreciate the advice of anyone who is or has been in my position. I can ask you ladies things I can't ask my mom, my bf or any of my friends. But at the same time, I think those who are now married should be here to *give* support to those of us who are single and dating, not necessarily to *receive* support for marriage related issues.
I think if a member has an important announcement like engagement, marriage, pregnancy, birth or whatever, they should feel free to post it. I really wouldn't like to see anyone leave because they are engaged, married, pregnant or a new mom with husband. I think they have a lot to offer the board. But I am sure they could stay on this board and also participate in other boards that have a married with kids focus. Or, could it be possible to add a folder on the page for 'formerly single and dating' posts? That way when one of us single girls is particularly depressed about our single status, we could easily avoid marriage related posts asking for support/advice (of course the normal chatter that happens inside a post where someone might mention a husband is not going to stop, but if you just need to vent that 'my husband this or that' it could be in that other folder).
I was thinking of going more into lurker status anyway. I need to focus on myself and being here isn't making my heart hurt any less right now. If everyone disagrees with you and thinks that support for marriage related issues IS a main topic for this board, that will just solidify my decision. And frankly, if that's the case then the message describing the board at the top should be changed.
I'm really very sad to read this post.
CL-Entrepreneurial Women
Business Impressions, LLC
Hmmm...lots of people get pregnant, married or otherwise. And there's no guarantee (sorry, don't mean to be negative about ANY of the marriages involved) that they'll always be married. We've talked each other through some really hard dating times...
I've posted on 'blended family' boards, when my ex got remarried, not me...just to see what I might be dealing with. And I've asked questions on lots of boards. Even the "age related" boards don't kick people off when they turn 50 on the 40 something board.
Like I said, I guess if there's some higher power that decides to ban married people or move them, I'll go with them. And there's a lot of wisdom in those people who've "been there done that" that you'll lose.
I guess if a bb isn't supposed to be like real life, then you don't want people on who "aren't your kind"...but in real life, people all around you have lives of their own. Psychologists and counselors (all of them I've had) are often married, and single people accept advice from them. Not to mention celibate priests.
anyway, no one is holding a gun to anyone's head to STAY here if they don't like it either. I've left other bb's to find something that was a better fit for me.
I wonder too, what other rules do we need then about posting. Do we not talk about being sick? Or ask for prayers for friends who are married? I know we have "sections" for stuff down below, but most of this just falls in the "life is like that" category.
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