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I need to be honest and I hope its ok
| Tue, 12-28-2004 - 5:28pm |
Best of luck all!!
MaryBeth
Edited 12/29/2004 10:31 am ET ET by mbfun
MaryBeth
Edited 12/29/2004 10:31 am ET ET by mbfun

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Why are you saying this in reply to my post? I said I didn't want them to leave. I said I appreciated and wanted their advice. All I suggested was a compromise. If you don't like the suggestion, fine, you don't need to say 'there's not a gun to my head to make me stay.' A separate folder could be right below the main folder. Lots of boards have more than one very active folder. I may continue to go to visit the Debt Support Group after I am debt free, but if I want to brag about how exciting it is to spend my money on something other than credit card interest, or ask for advice on what to do with all my excess money, they have a separate folder for that.
Edited to add: I can and would mention I am debt free and how I did it when I post to someone on Debt Support. It is important on any board to have people who have 'been there done that.' It is great having a women who was single for years and is now married give me some advice on my dating situation, but I am not in the best position to give support for someone posting how wonderful it is their husband made them breakfast for their birthday, and that is not what I am here for.
Edited 12/28/2004 11:18 pm ET ET by firstamendment
"There is something that has been bothering me and a few other single moms here. Now I want you to know I care about each of you but for the married ladies-- posting about pregnancy- husband issues- household issues really are not why we are here and it OUTS the single moms dating who are here."
MaryBeth, firstamendment, and others who feel uncomfortable/bothered
"It is great having a women who was single for years and is now married give me some advice on my dating situation, but I am not in the best position to give support for someone posting how wonderful it is their husband made them breakfast for their birthday, and that is not what I am here for."
The beauty of a message board is that you don't have to give support to anybody you don't want to give support to.
It hurts to ask those to leave but then again . . .
I just feel its inappropriate in alot of aspects to post here.
I'm not leaving.
And if my posts bother you, please feel free to put me on ignore. Problem solved.
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
I agree, Maggie. Thank you, as always, for your profound typing fingers. I have really learned a lot from you and always enjoy your writing style and your advice.
I am sorry that you have to answer these negative comments when you have so generously given your time to us. Please don't think you are not cherished and appreciated. You are one of the kindest people here.
>>>MaryBeth, firstamendment, and others who feel uncomfortable/bothered by the married women who post here: WHY are you uncomfortable with our presence here, and/or the posts we share here? What exactly is the issue you have with it?<<<
I have tried, obviously in vain to explain my position. I am not uncomfortable with posts from married women, and I am not bothered by it. If you can't read that in my posts then I don't think there is much I can do, and I give up. I am not here to whine and complain, but the other day I was having a dating-bf-related emotional crisis. Only two people cared to notice the developments in thread. Either it was overlooked because I am new, or for whatever reason people didn't have advice/suggestions for me. Or it was that news about pregnancy dominated that day. Maybe it was a little of both. It did, however, make me think about what I am doing here and why I am spending energy posting about myself here when I'm a big girl and should be taking care of myself instead of patiently waiting on you guys for advice. I appreciate the advice I received when I first arrived, but maybe it is now time for me to move on. I did not intend to get wrapped up in a debate about the board operations. I had an opinion and I shared it, and then have spent too much time clarifying it. If everyone wants to believe I'm saying married posters should leave or the board should be segregated, I am sorry you have misunderstood me.
Edited 12/29/2004 7:34 am ET ET by firstamendment
I was one of the people who helped you and have followed your posts. I believe the others didn't answer because my answer was good and quite frankly, there is no answer to your situation.
I truly don't believe that you would receive more help because there are fewer posts about marriage, babies and houses.
Further, most of the posts on the "heavily responded" messages are actually banters and conversations about other subjects. So you shouldn't take that personally.
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