I need to be honest and I hope its ok

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I need to be honest and I hope its ok
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Tue, 12-28-2004 - 5:28pm
Best of luck all!!
MaryBeth


Edited 12/29/2004 10:31 am ET ET by mbfun
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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 4:15pm

I would also love to hear about your first married Christmas!! And a synopsis of your first year of marriage - has there been anything hard?

You make it look so easy - and you didn't even have anything to say about step parenting. Is that hard?

Tell us more!!

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Wed, 12-29-2004 - 5:45pm

Thanks Mel and West (and everybody else!) --


I wanted to first officially

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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 6:48pm

There were times for me that no advice made sense or made me feel better. And times I considered not coming to this bb any more because I felt some people were being too rough on me. I won't name names, ok? LOL Who remembers when I was such a whiner?! Go on, you know it's true! LOL

I finally conquered some of my own crap, self esteem problems and feeling defeated by life. I did some cognitive therapy and got rid of the depression I have suffered all my life before now. And I see that no one was being mean to me, just offering their own life experience and advice. Some of which applied to me and some of which didn't. It was up to me to pick and choose.

I hope you do hang around. If you don't feel like talking, just lurk once in awhile. And do what you need for yourself. You can get past this.

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Wed, 12-29-2004 - 7:24pm
I am just very emotional right now, and I think that is understandable. I've done a lot this past year to get my life and my priorities in order. I know that if my relationship is ending I will be okay, but I am going to be sad and in pain for a while. I love him and I miss him it's not going to be easy to let go. I may stay or I may not. I haven't decided.

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:23am
Chiming in late to say I get what you're saying, but the point is that we're all in this together...some of us only just separating/divorcing and some of us married and everything in between. We're INclusive and supportive.
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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 11:52am

And all of you are lucky to have eachother obviously due to the loyalty shown in my thread here!! -- to include everyone married single divorced or not despite the title of the board...
I didnt mean to sound unappreciateve or that I have felt ANGERED or bothered...I didnt come accross right in my original post and I just dont know HOW to make it come accross in the proper way and all it has done is create a negative view of me...bothers me alot I did that-- wasnt my intention-- but whats done is done.

To Becky-- all the luck and love in the world to you in your marriage and luck with the pregnancy!! Thank you for taking all the time to show me love and concern in my rants and raves :)
To Mel-- the same to you !!!
Maggie- you are so amazing and I know I came accross as a hypocryte - again wasnt my intention- you are someone all of us look to for advice as you are a role model for us all!
To Mom of twins-- hey baby-- things will look up for you and you are awesome!

To firstamendment-- hugs to you for your hurt and frustration and pain that I understand - and another huge one for being the only one who was strong and like me voiced unpopular thoughts and took that risk...

To Revenoc, Phxaz2004, west1745, comountainsprite, mmlife, sunshinemin (sorry for striking a nerve) and I appreciate your thoughts and support when I needed them

I have obviously outed myself and taking my crayons and leaving!! (again)

Happy new year to all!

MaryBeth

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 12:43pm
MaryBeth, is there any chance you will reconsider? I don't think this reflects negatively on you. You were stating your opinion, which shows strength and character and is a good thing. This boards needs you as much as it needs any of us. I was feeling horrible here yesterday and thought I was beating my head against a wall trying to explain myself, but I feel better today and I think I'll stay. If you leave that is one less person to give me advice! So geez, at least stay for my sake :) Pretty please?

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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 2:41pm
Hey, our loyalty extends to you as well ,you know. You don't need to leave, we had a discussion and we're ok. YOu can stay and be ok, too. Your crayons are welcome here.
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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 2:47pm

We are always here for you. The crayons don't need to go so far or be permanently gone. I think you have had a very hard year but at the same time have good achievements with your move and new place. I know the holidays have taken a toll on most of us. I don't think we would be in this boat if not for that.

So, bon voyage, but hurry back home!!

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 12-30-2004 - 3:44pm

"I have obviously outed myself and taking my crayons and leaving!! (again)"


Hi MB,


I appreciated your post, but why would you leave?