I should have known...!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
I should have known...!!
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 1:24pm

... it was too easy!!

Well, many of you know my drama of cutting the cord with that guy. Last update from me was that he was so cool about it!

Just this minute I received a text message from him out of the blue: "Hi! How have you been? Do you miss me a little bit?" Yuck! That just sounds so pathetic to me. Have some self respect!

So, my first instinct is to just not respond because the truth of the matter is that no, I don't miss him at all, but it seems mean to say that to him and maybe he'll get the message if I just say nothing. Do I actually need to say something, though ? I don't want to be hurtful, but I am not going to lie, so silence seems to be the best alternative!

What do you think? TIA!

HappyDays

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 4:22pm

Silence is golden.

If you give him a response you will get his hopes up. Given enough time he will get over it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:56pm

DO NOT respond. Silence is better. Any communication you have with him (no matter how trivial) just sets up hope for him. Secretly, you might enjoy some of his unwanted attention and actually miss him when he stops bugging you..........but, let him go and stay gone!!!

Silence works for the pathetic types and the more serious stalker types too.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 12:54am

Ick. Eeeew. Needy. Ick.


I woudl ignore it. It will be less hurtful than saying what you WANT to say "Uh .... NO. Not in the least!"

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:48am
Thanks for your advice! That is what I decided to do (not respond). He is a nice guy, so I am sure he will get the hint, get over it and find someone with whom he is compatible.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:52am

Thanks for your advice!

I already decided not to respond to him. Your response made me laugh because there is nothing that turns me off me more than needy types of people (male or female). So, no, I will not miss him in the least! Maybe if I had even the slightest hint of interest in him I would miss it somehow, but nope, I don't and no, I definitely won't miss him!

Thanks again!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 8:54am

Hi! That's what I decided to do (ignore it). I agree - nothing is ickier than needy people! Gross!

Thanks for your advice!