I so hate dating.......

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I so hate dating.......
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 10:46pm

Why do I put myself through the misery? OLD is YUK. I just tend to meet these men that are not what I'm into, then I go to these meetup groups and its the same guys I see on OLD. I mean REALLY, no joking! It's the same guys! LOL. I just feel like it's never going to happen unless I really make an effort to get out of the house

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 11:08pm

I hear you... Every once in a while I get curious enough to go on match and see what's available (almost sounds like I'm ready to order lunch instead of date) and then I realize there is literally only one or two I'd be interested in.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 11:15pm
TRUST ME, I wasn't! LOL. It just seems exhausting and I just don't get into these men the older they get. It used to be sooooooooooo EASY! Now it's so tedious. UGH. I feel like after 5 days, it's just time to log myself out and end it.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 8:12am

For me, I don't know that it's so much the men getting older as me getting older.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:27am
Maybe that's the problem! I just don't believe the crap anymore. Or I too have become to cynical. I used to really be so blue eyed too and now I try to understand how I could have been so stupid to have put myself in this situation at hand. I also don't put up with any rude behaviour. HO HUM, why do I let this get to me? It's sooo not worth it.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:29am

I do think we are older and wiser, girls. And yes, dating does stink at times - because it is frustrating to know what you really want - and not be able to find it. The good news is that we do know what we want. The not so good news is that there is no guarantee as to when you will find it. I think if you watch a pot and count the seconds it takes to boil you will go crazy. But if you are doing something else, the pot comes to a boil too soon. I know that happened last night while I was online and the pot of water was on the stove ready for the spaghetti - half of it boiled away!!

I think we have to think in terms of our whole life - if you are in your thirties or forties you easily have 20 more years for this project. There are going to be dry spells of no interest and no date for a while. But hey - you have yourself - and you never disappoint yourself and you keep getting better, right?

As to the guys online - they are just normal souls to themselves. Some have made poor choices in life. Some have never had love or good examples in their homes while growing up so they are incapable. There are many who are not for us. But there is at least one out there somewhere - it only takes one!

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:30am
I think it is very good that you don't put up with rude behavior, Cat. I think you are getting closer at finding one and you are staying very true to yourself. The last decision with Nascar was hard because he was very into you - but the kid thing made it a no go and you called it right when you saw it. Hang in there - you are doing great with your career and getting a house and the kids are doing well - you will find one!!
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:32am
I keep wanting to click on half a$$ in your posts because it appears on my computer like it is a website:) Wouldnt it be great if that were true and then we could click and see all of them all lines up and not waste time?
I am happy as you know in my relationship but I have been through the dating scene and all of its wackiness so I do understand. I didnt find my SO until I had literally stopped looking and we just met in a computer store. To me the OLD thing only brought heartbreak to me.
I think hottie has potential though and I wouldnt be put off that you havent talked. He was sick last weekend and he may have had a ton to catch up on after he was feeling better especially since he is a full time Dad. It might still be a fabulous date. I would keep my hope up for that!!
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:51am

I hear ya chickie!

 
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:58am

I feel ya on this one! After the fiasco with C I dont know if I can ever believe in any of them anymore.I keep finding the duds.I have men all around and some ask me and some dont.The problem is I know its nothing to build a relationship on as they are all leaving and its like a profile almost...all u get to see if the "A GAM E"

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:07am
True, true, but you would think after 7 years?

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