I so hate dating.......

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I so hate dating.......
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 10:46pm

Why do I put myself through the misery? OLD is YUK. I just tend to meet these men that are not what I'm into, then I go to these meetup groups and its the same guys I see on OLD. I mean REALLY, no joking! It's the same guys! LOL. I just feel like it's never going to happen unless I really make an effort to get out of the house

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:11am
Yeah, but too me Hottie seems brain dead. I don't find myself in stimulating conversation
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:15am

But don't think of it a 7 years - think of it as just when you got here - Europe doesn't count!! LOL!!

And I know it is frustrating with OLD - but it does bring a lot more people to your door.

And yes yes I know we are stuck at home a lot more with our little precious packages - but that is the way it is - and people who don't have them really don't have that many more opportunities.

Hang in there!! And keep typing us your stories - even when they aren't good - it is always fun to hear about a new one you are emailing or talking to!!!!!

I have been deleting a lot too.

Okay - here is a short term memory list.

MtEverest is dating someone else - as I discovered on his facebook account. She is younger so he is entitled. And dating is dating.

There was one who was into Kaballah - delete.

One who closed because he is a widow and is not ready for dating - probably just wanted to dabble on EH.

One too short.

One who is into drinking a bottle of wine every night.

Some too old.

Some too far.

I think I have 412 in the trash about now. LOL!!!!

I guess the frustrating thing is that when you are older you see what you get - which is good - but you don't like a lot of what you see!!

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:16am
I digress to my sign option. Feel free to change wording. OK Seriously dont lose hope. I know right doming from me...LOL You have to keep it alive in your heart. And yes your heart is a little singed but not burnt to a crisp my friend. Holly Crap if you lose hope what the heck am I gonna do???? You know what there needs to be...a matchmaker to the normal gal. I threw something at the TV the other night over that show the millionaire
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:20am
That is a good point. I think I've been soooo independent after so many years of singlehood that I just never feel like I need anyone to help me with anything. Guys are always saying they want an independent woman, but in all honesty, they don't want them as independent as I might be. Yes, I want someone to want me, but I don't want to need someone. The more I think about it, the more I realize I come across pretty powerful to a guy. I'm very opinionated and direct with no beating around the bush. It reminds me a lot of my Dad. I don't play shy, what you get is what you see and very down to earth. Maybe almost harsh.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:28am
Yep, that is what I am seeing.
 
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:31am

Im noticing more of a trend my way also about strong,independent,opinionated women.Most guys seems to shy off after they see that side of a woman,atleast with my case it seems.I dont want to be some ninny clinging to their every need.One of the reasons I did get divorced was I wasnt my own individual.I couldnt have my own identity I was controlled 98% of the time.Now I am fiercely independent and loving it.Some dont know how to handle a woman that makes as close to their income or more either.Yes its 2008 but men are still men afterall and need to be the main breadwinner at times.


I had a older woman tell me something I have given ALOT of thought about lately just a few days ago.I was groaning on and on about how I needed my other 1/2 and I was lonely and wanted male companionship sometimes that I NEEDED to feel like a WHOLE woman.She replied to me,"Alaina,you are as complete a woman as you will ever be.You dont need to find someone to COMPLETE you cause you arent incomplete,You need a man that will COMPLIMENT you." I agree after thinking about it. I dont think I want any man that I would have to back down who I am just for them to be with me or accept me. Its ok Cat...surely there HAS to be one out there left for us all!

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:48am
Yes I think you are right...THEY are the ones who are MOST confused! So maybe the answer here is to appear to be a CONFIDENT INDEPENDENT woman in theory and when you meet them appear clingy and needy and Ooooh and Aaahh over them like they are so special and we are so proud to have them,couldnt make it without them...Maybe thats the answer...bet your bottom dollar thats not gonna happen with me! LOL...I will just stay the "grouch" type of woman that scare men.
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:49am

I think this is the difference, at least for me:

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:00am

The sad thing is, I could have a serious married sugar daddy if I wanted too. He has offered to travel me around the world to be with me, but I still refuse 7 years later. He just doesn't get what he needs at home so he stays in the marriage because of the money.


I have a lot of opportunities and options, but just not the one's I want. It sucks.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:03am

Wow...couldnt have said it all better myself. I think all in all thats what everybody wants


M~ who would change her pancake butt for a little j-lo any day LOL