I so hate dating.......
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I so hate dating.......
| Wed, 02-27-2008 - 10:46pm |
Why do I put myself through the misery? OLD is YUK. I just tend to meet these men that are not what I'm into, then I go to these meetup groups and its the same guys I see on OLD. I mean REALLY, no joking! It's the same guys! LOL. I just feel like it's never going to happen unless I really make an effort to get out of the house

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From hecallsmesunshine: "I had a older woman tell me something I have given ALOT of thought about lately just a few days ago.I was groaning on and on about how I needed my other 1/2 and I was lonely and wanted male companionship sometimes that I NEEDED to feel like a WHOLE woman.She replied to me,"Alaina,you are as complete a woman as you will ever be.You dont need to find someone to COMPLETE you cause you arent incomplete,You need a man that will COMPLIMENT you." I agree after thinking about it. I dont think I want any man that I would have to back down who I am just for them to be with me or accept me."
That is IT!!!! And I do think that men can sense it if a woman is looking for a man to COMPLETE her, or completely take care of her. He wants a PARTNER. So as women, before we start hunting for dates, we need to be good to ourselves first, and be secure in ourselves first. Don't be desperate for a "savior" to bring us happiness, in other words. BE happy already.
Also- I also think men are scared away by women who are too independent, too. I think men want to be wanted and needed... so a bit of "damsel in distress" at times is a good thing. Just not a distressed damsel ALL the time, KWIM?
And Moon- your relationship sounds alot like mine with Hiker. I get it, woman! I don't want just ANY man, I just want MINE! lol And I don't care to be wanted by any other man than him, too. I don't need him for anything; if he's busy one weekend, I'm not left sitting around bored. I just do my own stuff (because I am always busy with my projects) and it's no big deal! And if we have time to get together, then I'm enjoying that for all it offers, as well! I just simply enjoy his company, with no agenda for anything but to just ENJOY the time. It's just so easy. :-)
But Cat- I have to agree... that whole "dating hunt" is not a fun time, when it seems like you find more frogs than princes. But at least you are getting the activity going, because it won't happen unless you are active about it! Just hang in there, and if all the OLD stuff gets to you, then just take a break. Say that you won't even try finding a date for 2 months (or whatever time frame you see fit- but not just a couple of weeks)... and focus on your own hobbies and interests. Just take a breather from it all, if it's that frustrating!!! I know I took off a whole year from even TRYING to look, a few years ago. I was just simply tired of the whole hunting and dating and weeding game. So I took a serious break. And I didn't miss it. And then when I was ready to try again, I could try again without that frustrating backing me. (because I think frustration will show through)
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I haven't OLD since the summer and now I've only been on it 5 days. LOL. Talk about a short fuse. :) Don't forget we are heading into March and I haven't had a real date since mid-December, because I went to Tejas for the Holidays, came back on the 30th,
Also- I also think men are scared away by women who are too independent, too. I think men want to be wanted and needed... so a bit of "damsel in distress" at times is a good thing. Just not a distressed damsel ALL the time, KWIM?
Shrimpy and Moon - I totally agree. I was having a heart-to-heart with Kazoo a few months ago and he was honest with me and said that the fact that I am as independent as I am un-nerves him a little.
"they want a woman to want "them" not their cars and such, YET they put pictures of cars and motorcyles on profiles"
LOL Moon-
Thank god BE loves my curves, too. He used to date stick figured women who he now calls "breakable and fragile". He feels more "at home" and fitting with me. He does not feel like he is going to break me, lol!
I love that SEV respects the J'Lo booty! Gotta love men who love a real butt!!
Yep,you said it right.Just like a shiny fishing hook! LOL
Want something to catch their eye!
Hey I had a MASSIVE corny pickup line today I thought I would share because it almost made me giggle out loud and lose my composure.I was asking about about a guys overall health and I got to the mental health part and when I asked did he have any mental health issues he wanted to talk about he stated,"Yeah I havent had a date with you yet and its driving me crazy." I was seriously like..WTF..you
any mental health issues he wanted to talk about he stated,"Yeah I havent had a date with you yet and its driving me crazy.
Hey, that's cute! Ok it might be a LINE but it's a creative one. I give him credit for that! HAve you ever seen him before that time? Was serious about wanting a date?
yeah apparently I had seen him on his last visit not that I remembered as I literally seen THOUSANDS in a couple weeks time! I dont know if he was serious,I was caught so off guard by that line I was like huh???
I told ya when I first got here I can talk to anyone but let it move up a level at all and I freeze up!!
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