I think I blew it!
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I think I blew it!
| Sun, 06-01-2008 - 9:40am |
After several dates with a great guy he invited me back to his house for a movie. I decided I felt comfortable enough to go. We had a GREAT TIME. He has a full basement with a bar..pool table..games..dart board! Fun stuff. Well I apparently hurt his feelings UNINTENTIONALLY by saying I do not drink beer out of a can. That is all he had. I said I WOULD and did not mind but in general I prefer bottles. Aye Aye Aye!

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I agree with Liz! If the guy can't accept you and your lifestyle/home and it makes him feel insecure or insulted... then he has issues that go beyond anything you inadvertantly did or said. Sounds like he isn't even going to give you a chance because (for whatever reason)- he feels like you're "too good" for him.
We DO have to date someone who is our match, or people who we feel we are "equals" to, or are similar with (sorry for the horrid grammar). I'm not saying it's right or good that people are that way, but I do think it works best when we feel like we are matched to our partner, socioeconomically, academically, intellectually, physically... although there are people who can make mismatches with those areas work just fine. I just don't think the guy can handle that.
I'm not a fan of beer (he'd probably chew me out for not LIKING beer)... but if I was to drink it, I prefer it out of a bottle too. Canned beer tastes metallic to me. Dang- I'm that way even with Ensure... it's better from the plastic bottle than the cans. A choice between canned beer or something else? Give me something else! Water would be fine for me! lol
Hey Liz- are you still with Spark people? How is all that going? Up for a challenge?
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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If he is really that sensitive over the beer thing.. there has to be other issues with him that he is not telling you.
sorry to hear things went down that way... maybe he does have some deeper issues of insecurity.. maybe he feels he's getting attached and that is bringing out the worst in him... i don't know...
I don't think YOU blew it.. one comment does not make or break a relationship... could you two be entering the next phase of the relationship ..."the power struggle"? It is natural to have that first "fight"... or disagreement and both of you want to be right.
In either case all you can do now is apologize... forgive yourself and forgive him... at least he
This guy got bent out of shape over your preference for beer in a bottle instead of a can???
oops posted to wrong thread
QueenBun
Edited 6/1/2008 12:10 pm ET by queenbun
I don't drink beer at all, prefer white wine, how snooty is that? LOL!
QB
Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
Other people have posted one side of the coin, I'll propose the other.
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