I think I figured out

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Registered: 10-10-2007
I think I figured out
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 2:15pm

my problem (beyond the fact that I should be working, LOL!!)

April

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 6:36pm

Awww- that is soooo sweet!


Yes, Mr. Lowe called when he was leaving his town (2 hours away) and then called again about 20 mins away... emailed me when he got home and then sent a quick email to say hi this morning cause he was too busy last night to chat.


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Registered: 10-10-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 7:50pm

I at least want 50/50 you know- you call me and check in with me and email me and I will do the same- not every time we talk is because I initiated!

April

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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 7:58am
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 8:57am
I am wondering if it is because he is somewhat unsettled? I mean, a student who is not settled near you is sort of unsettled? I would not like that part unless I knew he wanted to live near me?
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 9:57am

That is a valid point--He will be in school for the next 3-4 years (depending on whether he drops to part-time at any point.)

April

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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 11:44am

Hi April,


Thank you for that post... we are on the same page... I know exactly how you feel and it's always great to know that we are not alone in what we are going through....


It makes sense, that when we meet someone knew... who stirs up those feelings... that the memories come back from the most recent time those feelings were stirred...ie the ex.... I start thinking "the last time someone was this sweet to me, he turned out to be manipulative...." "the last time xyz... i was hurt...." This is natural and scary... but worth it. I'm trying to take the opportunity to forgive my ex even more... when i remember the pain, instead of tucking it away, i let myself feel it and then say, i forgive him. And I forgive myself. Then i pat myself on the back for my bravery to even get involved with someone new.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 12:28pm

Hi April - I just wanted to add my two cents.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 12:55pm

You haven't mentioned whether or not you are attracted to him.

April

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