I think I found a catch! (dating update)
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I think I found a catch! (dating update)
| Sat, 10-07-2006 - 10:41am |
& I am going to STOP freaking out that he may BE a catch ... cause' i dont WANT a catch ... yet! Not for like a year or 2! lol
This guy C is the one from Boston (1+ hr from me). Last nite was only our 3rd date in about 4 weeks ... 1st one was almost a month ago (for Waterfire) & the other was a very breif lunch
This guy C is the one from Boston (1+ hr from me). Last nite was only our 3rd date in about 4 weeks ... 1st one was almost a month ago (for Waterfire) & the other was a very breif lunch


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Your report is so refreshing that you are having so many options for dating and that you are having fun and that they are treating you well.
Just keep doing what you are doing - time will tell you. And I do believe that with your age and the fact that you do want one more child - you will find someone special soon enough. Don't settle with just one too soon - until you see he is that into you and you are the same with him.
The 45 never been married would make me a bit nervous - but he is from afar - so maybe that is why? That is my only thought. Just a thought.
You are kind to share your stories with us - we do hope you keep us posted!!!!!
Thanks for your feeback.
Hi - thanks. (see above, about the married thing)
I have not even talked at all about exclusivity with any of the guys I see.
I think it's great that you're keeping your options open and until he mentions that he wants to be "exclusive" you don't have any obligation to not see other people. And I think by going out it allows you to be more objective and you're not blinded. Plus if you're not readily available ALL the time for just him he's more likely to be intrigued and will pursue more. Fun fun!
I know what you mean about not having more babies. I'm 36 and I don't want more and tend to look for men that don't want more children. I have a BF and we both have kids the same age so eventually we're going to be at a point in life where the kids are grown and we can do what we want to do.
By "afar" I meant that he came here to the US from another country - and that does take time and focus - to establish yourself and get used to things here - so that could give him a little leeway for the age and never been married at 45 issue.
I have dated a few men in this category and find that there is always a BIG reason that they are this old and not married. Not to say every one is like that. For example, one was not capable at all of making any kind of change in his life - his mom abused him when he was little and I think he had issues. Another one didn't believe in paying taxes and didn't want to come to grips with the fact that his biz was deep in debt and not making any kind of substantial money to satisfy its existance. Just a caution - watch and see kind of thing.
The one thing I DO like is that his parents have been married a long time. AND the fact that he views marriage as an adult final stage thing - in other words that he wanted to have a good education and career in place. That is a much better reason than having a string of girlfriends and never meeting the right one - those are the guys who are players and the ones you have to watch out for.
You are doing great. To be honest, I think your story is one of the best we have seen on this board since I have been here. Because you are not going to "exclusive" too soon and you are putting yourself first and enjoying dating. And waiting.
Keep us posted and keep up the great job!!
If the guy lives 1+ hour away from you, the distance will make it hard to progress in the relationship. Eternal bachelors will set up scenarios that makes dating nearly impossible. It will be distance or a time factor. Some emotional unavailable men can only tolerate a once-a-month date. Keep an eye on that.
If dates don't happen at a frequency to suit you, then look for someone who is more available. Have the kind of relationship that YOU want.
Hi Rebecca,
LOL, we always seem to be on the same page/stage.... I am right where you are as far as not wanting to get exclusive...I'm also giving myself 6 months before thinking about just one guy. Glad to hear that you are exploring the adventures in dating.
Have fun.
Love,
Loonybunny
PS I've been on so many first dates since my ex that I've lost count. And that's a huge improvement over the premarried me, 5 years ago. Truely for the first time in my life I'm enjoying dating and not being exclusive with just one.
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