I think I found him - how do I keep him?

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Registered: 04-22-2009
I think I found him - how do I keep him?
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 2:34pm

After many, many months of loneliness and terrible dates, I have finally found someone I like.

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 3:19pm
by being yourself and not acting desperate and clingy and needy.
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 6:05pm
Chill baby! Chill............ Don't get needy, keep up with your normal life routine and don't drop everything for him. They lose attraction when you are together constantly. Slow down, live in the moment and enjoy. Let him do things for you and show appreciation :)
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Sun, 06-20-2010 - 6:58pm

"How do I keep him?"

Lol- is he a little bird you found and you're asking momma to keep him?

Relax honey, he's just a man! You're having fun, and you're enjoying each's company. If it ended it's NOT the end of the world!

That said, how do you keep him? By being yourself and having fun! By ensuring that you make time for him, but keep the rest of your life in balance. That you keep a little bit of mystery so that he's wanting to know more- you're not always available when he calls because you have a life OUTSIDE of your relationship with him.



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Registered: 01-26-2009
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 7:56am

Be yourself.

Faith is not blind; it's visionary


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Registered: 09-22-2009
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 11:35am

I won't tell you to 'be yourself' because I don't believe revealing your

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 2:36pm

i think this is a reasonable question. I have a book recommendation "Boundaries in Dating" by Cloud and Townsend. This book is all about what a healthy relationship looks like etc. And i think having good healthy boundaries will certainly help anyone keep the relationship strong and long lasting.

with chapters such as

"Dating won't cure a lonely heart"

"Don't fall in love with someone you wouldn't be friends with"

"Don't Get Kidnapped"

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Registered: 09-15-2008
Mon, 06-21-2010 - 7:57pm
Make a list of all the things YOU bring to the relationship: compassion, a sense of humor, etc. It will help remind you that it's not just about you keeping him but about him keeping you! Most guys seem to find self-confidence attractive.
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Registered: 03-14-2005
Tue, 06-22-2010 - 10:04pm
I agree totally - I think you do have to have the mental, physical - be compatible and at the same place in life - as well as being able to see someone's imperfections and acknowledging that you can live w/them...well said!