Please don't take this the wrong way, you have got to have a little more confidence in yourself. I think you are hanging onto this guy because you might be too attached after sleeping together. You two are sure not on the same page or communicating very well. Just let it go! There ARE better men out there. He left you completely HANGING and blew you off for the weekend. Then you see a myspace posting from another girl about her birthday?? He is PLAYING GAMES!! Don't waste anymore time or energy on this loser!! Stephanie
Please breathe long and deep. I am just jumping in now but I have read the other posts. I just have to say that this guy really does strike me as making this up. It doesnt add up. How did he give a girl the best bday ever if he was in the hospital with no time to do anything all weekend let alone call you to let you know the plans he had for you two were falling through? There are ALWAYS ways to contact someone and hello - today is Wed! Even if his story were true, and he couldnt get his phone replaced until today - ANYONE who really cared would find a way to contact you before then. Email, pay phone, drop a note by your house or work - there has to be a way. Is his next excuse going to be that he had to get a new phone because the other one was the only way he could have access to your number? Does he know where you work or where you live? Think in your head about a guy that would really be into you who had just invited you for a weekend away - wouldnt he make the effort to find you and tell you briefly what was going on EVEN in an emergency so that you wouldnt be left hanging. NOw for him to be stringing you along like he should be mad at you. He is bordering on sociopathic in my head. YOU should be angry and he is a jerk. Period. YOu need to let this go and create immediate space so you can think clearly. And please keep reminding yourself that HE was on POV and that is how he found you there. If he had time to do that shouldnt he have been calling you somehow or emailing you to let you know he was alive? HIs priorities are screwed up - the only way they are remotely in line is if he is an a$$hole and stringing you along for as long as he can. Harsh, but if you think clearly, it is true. I really think it will help you when people start chiming in but PLEASE PLEASE for your own sanity take a step back and really take a look at this.
And to add: You have already made yourself look desperate to this guy AND he now will turn it in a way that all you'll ever be is a bootie call. Your letting this guy get away with murder, just because he stroked your ego and was all nice nice a few times? I don't think so darlin! Your setting yourself up for a seriously bad guy. You have to have more confidence in yourself! He enjoys you getting all hot and heavy for him, because you running after him proves that. You setting yourself up for POF is only going to get him to want to try to weave you back in his web, he loved the attention of desperation from you.
Stay off of POF darlin, that place is a death trap of disgusting men who aren't looking for love. Believe me, even I have tried it before, but it really is an awful place to go looking for love. Stick with EH or Match.com. If they can't fork the $30 buck or $40 then you don't need to be dating them anyway. YOU ARE WAYYY TO GOOD FOR JERKS LIKE THAT! YOU ARE WAY TOOO GOOD FOR THAT IDIOT!!!
I'm sorry because I know you wish he was telling the truth. But I feel certain he is lying. Even if his sister is sick that is no excuse to leave you hanging all these days- none. He is USING the sick sister card to make YOU feel bad for what he has done.
He could have called you- the broken phone thing is certainly
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Stephanie
ALL I have to say to this is:
I just have to say that this guy really does strike me as making this up. It doesnt add up. How did he give a girl the best bday ever if he was in the hospital with no time to do anything all weekend let alone call you to let you know the plans he had for you two were falling through?
There are ALWAYS ways to contact someone and hello - today is Wed! Even if his story were true, and he couldnt get his phone replaced until today - ANYONE who really cared would find a way to contact you before then. Email, pay phone, drop a note by your house or work - there has to be a way. Is his next excuse going to be that he had to get a new phone because the other one was the only way he could have access to your number? Does he know where you work or where you live? Think in your head about a guy that would really be into you who had just invited you for a weekend away - wouldnt he make the effort to find you and tell you briefly what was going on EVEN in an emergency so that you wouldnt be left hanging.
NOw for him to be stringing you along like he should be mad at you. He is bordering on sociopathic in my head. YOU should be angry and he is a jerk. Period. YOu need to let this go and create immediate space so you can think clearly.
And please keep reminding yourself that HE was on POV and that is how he found you there. If he had time to do that shouldnt he have been calling you somehow or emailing you to let you know he was alive? HIs priorities are screwed up - the only way they are remotely in line is if he is an a$$hole and stringing you along for as long as he can. Harsh, but if you think clearly, it is true.
I really think it will help you when people start chiming in but PLEASE PLEASE for your own sanity take a step back and really take a look at this.
And to add: You have already made yourself look desperate to this guy AND he now will turn it in a way that all you'll ever be is a bootie call. Your letting this guy get away with murder, just because he stroked your ego and was all nice nice a few times? I don't think so darlin! Your setting yourself up for a seriously bad guy. You have to have more confidence in yourself! He enjoys you getting all hot and heavy for him, because you running after him proves that. You setting yourself up for POF is only going to get him to want to try to weave you back in his web, he loved the attention of desperation from you.
Stay off of POF darlin, that place is a death trap of disgusting men who aren't looking for love. Believe me, even I have tried it before, but it really is an awful place to go looking for love. Stick with EH or Match.com. If they can't fork the $30 buck or $40 then you don't need to be dating them anyway. YOU ARE WAYYY TO GOOD FOR JERKS LIKE THAT! YOU ARE WAY TOOO GOOD FOR THAT IDIOT!!!
I'm sorry because I know you wish he was telling the truth. But I feel certain he is lying. Even if his sister is sick that is no excuse to leave you hanging all these days- none. He is USING the sick sister card to make YOU feel bad for what he has done.
He could have called you- the broken phone thing is certainly
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Don't feed into his guilt trip!
I observe several things:
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