I think I should introduce myself!

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Registered: 09-27-2005
I think I should introduce myself!
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 4:41pm

Hi everyone!

I have been a lurker for many years on ivillage and I'm finally coming out of my "online" shell with this and other communities on ivillage. I have lurked for a very long time. I first started here at ivillage message boards in the "Pregnacy.. July 1998"...Then I moved to the "July 1998 (first year)" boards...found myself at "suriving divorce" (2002)...single and dating as well as here. All lurking...a very long time :-) Very Helpful and I can't thank all those people enough!

I'm a single mom now, which implies here divorced, good job, and have had one serious relationship as well as have dated some...actually recently got a little crazy and started a "social" for people who just wanted to meet new people in my area with success. It's so hard to meet people sometimes...and with the online thing, I think we take the person out of it and replace it with a screen (JMHO).

My serious relationship (post divorce) was a very painful experience and sometimes still can be. Hovever, I will not let that or me stop me from anything!~ That being said...I can still trip.

They only thing that I can say is that this community has/does have some of the most wonderful people with some of the greatest hearts. I'm so glad all you (new or lurkers) found this place...it's one place online that there is very little judgement and a very good group of consistant people!

I look forward to posting here more!

Take Care,
S~

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 6:14pm

Welcome!! How wonderful you came out of lurkerdom - stay and post with us!!

These boards are far better than any family therapist - and free, too!!

I can relate to your pain - sorry you had to go through all of that - I think post-divorce breakups are always very hard. Not sure why. Maybe we all just get less resilient as we age!!

How did you start your social? Give us the details!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 7:55pm

Hi and welcome to delurkdom.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:04pm

Hi Judy!

Thanks for the welcome :-)

My "social" :-) I still think it's funny but my friends think it's me...funny how we see our selves differently:

A little history since you don't know me...I tend to be a very social person by nature, however, while emerging from my (isolated) post break up funk...I thought "I don't want to be in a relationshp right now but I really want to meet new people and I can't possibly be the only one with that feeling and why is it so difficult!".

So since I live in a very populated area...I posted a thought out Happy Hour ad in a well read forum. I was TRULY amazed at the response...I hit my goal for the first "group" meeting...very laid back trendy place that people would feel comfortable going to and leaving...My goal was to make it more happy hour inclinded as opposed to "night life"...We're doing another one. Hopefully more people.

I think the key was/is to make everyone feel comfortable and understand that it is not a giant "blind date" but to express that everyone was welcome from men, women, singles, married couples, to bf/gf...the requirement is that they just keep it laid back and be sure you can be yourself. Basically I wanted to put back the human element in meeting people:-)Who knows:-)

Thanks for asking Judy...I continue to look forward to posting here. I wish I'd started earlier...back in 1998 (though I wasn't single then...I think you what I mean)...it's never too late.

Take care,
S~