I Told Him...
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 9:59pm |
I told Dave on the phone tonight that I thought things were moving way too fast for us. He took everything very well and said that he understood. He said that he couldn't help the way that he feels, but realizes that he shouldn't have said the "L" word so fast. I told him that I did like him and wanted to continue to see him, but just not as much. I explained my situation to him (he already knew most of it) and just told him that my main focus and priorty had to be my dd, me, school, and work right now. He understood, but I think his feelings were a little hurt, which I completely understand. But a part of me just feels sssssoooooo relieved right now.
As for my mom, she's very mad at me and isn't speaking to me right now. All I can do with that is wait it out I guess. When it comes down to it, it is my life, and I have to do what I feel and think is best for me and my dd. If she can't accept it, then I don't know what else to say at this point.
Thanks for the support you guys...
Kait

You handled that beautifully, even though it's not easy to tell a great guy to slow down or to disappoint your mom, you and your dd ARE your focus nobody can change that but you.
Kait,
I'm glad that you talked to the doc and straightened things out.
I had to have another talk with Dave. Evidentally he didn't really understand everything behind our whole conversation last night. He bombarded me with calls, text messages, and emails today. So, I finally told him that we should just be friends right now. I know it hurt him, I could tell, but I think it's for the best right now.
As for my mom, we're back on speaking terms and she doesn't seem as mad. She tried to bring up Dave in our phone conversation today, but I cut her off at the pass. I told her that it was my business and that I would handle everything in the way that I saw fit. I told her that wasn't trying to be snotty to her, that I knew her intentions were well placed, but to just let me handle my own relationship. She said okay, but I knew it was bugging her to death.
As for my dd, she's doing wonderfully well! She goes with her dad this weekend for 3 nights. I have everything documented about her past visits and problems she had and turned them over to DFS. I don't know what's going on with that right now, but I'll probably find out pretty soon.
One of my friends in class told me that his uncle was one of the judges in my neighboring county. He's going to talk to him about my whole divorce/visitation problem and tell me what he says. Hopefully I can go with my friend one night this week and talk to the judge personally...who knows...but I'm trying. I just feel like I'm grasping at straws right now, but I can't give up. Part of me feels like this is just never going to end, but I know there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel somewhere...
Hope everyone has a good night...
Kait
Stephanie