I understand now

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I understand now
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:18am

In the past I've had people say "I don't have time for a relationship"...I think now I might understand what they meant.


I have been busy this week attending lectures for a couple of possible hires in the Anthropology department. They are looking for someone with linguistic interests and I guess I'm one of two students who knows anything about linguistics so they want my opinion.


I am attending lunch with one of the new hires today and heard his lecture yesterday.


With Karate, grad school, and the things I do at the iglesia, I have one night a week that is not scheduled ahead of time. When would I find time to date? LOL


I'd like to have a life partner, but I don't know if he could keep up, or if he would WANT to. I certainly wouldn't have much time to devote to "pampering a man"...like all the articles talk about. HA! I'd barely have time to say hello before I fell asleep.


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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:41am
I can understand how you feel that way Candi. I just know, that I don't want to be sooooooo busy in my life that I don't have time to let anyone in. I would like to have a relationship and not just keep myself sooo busy that I don't even have time to notice, if someone likes me. I barely have time now, but I still take the time to look up and notice. Does that make sense? This way, if the right one came along, I would make a few changes to fit him into my life, because I expect him to fit me into his.
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 10:10am

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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 10:18am

I can totally relate. I feel the same way - and I even like how I am emotionally very stable now - no drama, tears, worry or disappointment.

AND yes - bravo - if he likes you he has to make it know. Who knows, maybe he will collide head on with you when you are running down your school hallway!!

Did your read Min's story - she didn't even want to go to that bar because she had other plans. And poof.

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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 10:37am
I agree with both of you. I just mean, if the guy was interested in me and showed me, then I wouldn't say I have no time. Until then, yes, keep busy, busy, busy.
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 3:20pm

HA!!! You need your own personal "cabana boy" to be there to pamper YOU!!!


I've never personally experienced being too busy for

Becky

 

 

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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 4:12pm

I think if someone is interested enough they will MAKE me look up.


EXACTLY.




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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 5:25pm
Yup--the best time to be involved is when you're really, really busy, because then you'll be less likely to settle for something that's not all that great. :) I'm working 55 hours a week, have my son 1/2 time, run, lift weights, climb, snowboard, and deal with an 80-pound puppy. I've been dating more now than at any other time, and I'm finding that I'm MUCH more selective. It's absolute chaos, and I've never loved my life more.

Angie