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| Wed, 05-28-2008 - 9:49pm |
Here are mine, please share yours:
Entertainment Lawyer - Next I can't take the effimanite voice
Widower - I haven't heard from him since his vm last Thursday. I sent a brief email this evening so it is do or die on this one. (too bad as he was the most promising on paper)
Marathon runner - open communication. I love the way he writes and he is writing me while on vacation. He has shared his personality profile which is very positive. He is worth a meet although I will have to hear his voice first (see above)
Graduate - he just graduated from grad school. I winked at him a month ago and he finally winked back this past weekend put since then he has been moving quickly. He is cute and nice profile; we just exchanged 2nd questions. We will see where this goes.
A friend of mine joined on Saturday and already has a date to meet two men. I have been on this over a month (closer to six weeks I think) and have yet to meet a single guy. Geesh!! I hope I can meet at least one guy before my subscription is up. Also, I have not gotten a match in the last few days. Prior to this I was getting 1-4 matches a day.
I am really trying to be patience and will admit that the quality so far out ways the quantity but come on something please!
Outside of EH, I have gotten the word out that I am available. I don't know of anyone who has friends in my age range but I will try what it takes.

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I agree, Judy- that it's all about the timing. It was a little bit like that with Hiker and I. I saw him on match and sent him a wink, but never got a response back. About a year or two later, he contacts me (but never remembers getting a wink before) and the rest is history! Weird things happen online and you just never know. It really IS all about timing- especially when it comes to finding or starting something with someone.
Like the funk I've been in this past month... I have NOT had the energy to date. If I was still doing active OLD or trying to date, I wouldn't have done a THING this month!!! Even when I've gone out with Hiker, I feel like I've only been half there... but he's hanging in there with me as I move through this funk.
So you never know- if you get a bad response from someone... they might just be having a bad week. It happens.
I tried EH a long, long time ago and got frustrated with the slowness of the process. Never met anyone in person from there. Everyone I've met has been through Match. But I did learn alot about myself and my Must-Haves and Deal-breakers when I filled out the whole application process! It was very thorough!
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Shrimps, I am sorry you are still in your funk - although you have sounded better in your posts - are you feeling better now - even if just a bit? You are always so nice and wise with your posts - so we want you to be okay!!
I think EH is a good deal better now than 5 years ago when I first tried it because OLD is more mainstream and there are a lot more people on there and they have fine-tuned their process and added a lot more features to their site - although it is a slow process - but I liken that to the pool of men as we age - there are not so many quality ones who want a relationship and who are a true match. So patience is in order. MrRightNow is always right here but MrRight is more elusive.
Anyway, 5 years ago when I tried it, it was slow. But I dated this one who wanted me to get a nanny so I could be away for months - he said that on the first date and he drank too much and then went after a sloppy kiss. Right after that I got matched with my exh and I flipped out and shut the whole thing off!
The funny thing is that I was matched with him again this time - but was ready - I had my initials instead of my name - and no picture - just on a match by match basis - and when my exh came along again I closed him! I was not so flipped out. And I said - hey - at least that means my decision was not that bad so long ago. And I did read his profile and said he is NOT a match this time because of what he says! hahaha!! Not that I would ever want to go back anyway.
Hey Judy, I'm in a real crazy funk... it's been a bad month!!! But I know it will pass. Everything passes eventually. I just have to embrace it as it is, and then move on. I've just been missing my Mom alot this month, and then for the major networks to kick off their big cancer fundraising campaign yesterday... it just made things fresh again. I should stop trying to read others' stories because they just bring back ours. But anyway...
From my blog:
I just signed up for the Stand Up 2 Cancer site.

I made my Stand here, for my Mom. Sorry I can't actually pinpoint our location, as the photos change positions every time you refresh the page. At least the hunt is easy to find for now, but once the page gets fuller and fuller... it will be harder to search through the sea of faces. But this is the photo of us that I used, and then imagine it teeny-tiny if you go look:
It was taken at my cousin's wedding in California, early summer of 2006. Little did we know then, that we wouldn't have Mom with us anymore, not even a year later. I am still so glad we made that trip, and had the fun we had. It turned out to be the last California trip we made, having Mom with us.
I also set up a star in her name in the Constellation section of the site. Mom, you are forever free.
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Sorry for the thread hijack away from EH...
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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What a beautiful picture Shrimps!
alright i sent the first 5 question to a 28 yr old LPN/musician... hehehe... again with the younger guy....
and i sent the one that said "what do you think of premarital sex"...LOL... just trying to be funny... do you think he'll respond or what??? somehow i don't think he'll know that i'm kinda joking.... it was probably not a good first question... LOL... but i'm cracking myself up for sending it... LOL.
Then i got something from someone 43 yr old... too old and he was a bit plumpy.. not my type... i'm not going to respond...
Loonybunny
Edited 5/29/2008 12:21 pm ET by loonybunny
I would close the ones you're not interested in right away- hopefully somewhere in the system EH is weeding out the types that we ARE closing and the reasons!
As for the premarital sex question- likely he'll take that as an invitation to just have sex with you
Alternatively, since eHarmony advertises on a lot of Christian venues, and since Loony probably answered the questions about her faith, he might well presume she wants to remain chaste.
~s~
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That is a beautiful picture. I am touched by how you continue to honor your mom and you are so loving and thoughtful. Your mom must have been so proud of you, the woman you are. I bet she looks down on you and just smiles, smiles, smiles.
I'm sorry you're feeling the sorrow this month. As time passes it will get easier. Your in my thoughts and prayers! Always!
Oh - hugs to you. That is a beautiful photo - and I am sure she is looking down on all of you guys and very proud, Shrimps!! I don't know what else to say- I cannot imagine your loss - that is just so sad. And no wonder with Mother's Day here and the whole thing. Cancer is just such an ugly thing for all involved. Thanks for giving us the links - I am going to check those out.
My hairdresser was here yesterday and was on his way to visit his sister - she has been battling cancer for quite some time - like over the past 20 years and now it is in her lungs and she has 2 twin girls who are 16. That is such a tragedy.
When I hear stories like these, it makes me more appreciative of the things I tend to take for granted.
How is your dad holding up?
That is certainly a photo to be cherished!
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