If "HE" could change you........

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If "HE" could change you........
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 3:47am
what would your significant other change? And would you change it for him? This can either be a feature or an attitude or both.

I would say attitude wise:

That I wouldn't say that I wouldn't be so flippant. Some days I change my mind a hundred times. Drives my whole family CRAZY!

Feature would be: Bigger boobs. Since having both my girls, they shrank instead of grew. I was a "B", then during my pregnancy a "C" and now I am a "A". And my Aeroles look like huge pacifiers. UGH!

I used to want to have a breast implant, but now I like who I am. I do think about maybe lifting them and having my aeroles a bit smaller, but I rather spend my money on something more worthwhile.

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:12am
That isn't really true. Feature wise, he says I am perfect. I just have a suspicion or maybe it's my own conscious. ;)
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 10:47am
Shane definitely wouldn't change my appearance. He loves my body and my face...all of it. He even likes my feet and he's not a foot person. He says I have cute little baby feet. LOL! I wear an 8. That's not little...average maybe, but not little. But opposed to his monster sized 13's I guess they are. He also wouldn't change how I think or my general demeanor. He loves how I relate to others...especially Dylan. He says it's sexy how much I love my son.

He'd change my dramatics. I over react to things and take things the wrong way sometimes. He's change that and I am trying to tone it down.

I wouldn't change his physical appearance. I know he wants to lose the gut and that's cool with me. As long as he's happy and feels good about himself. I fell for him as is, so either way, I'm fine. I wouldn't change how he cares for others and how he is with Dylan. It's awesome to watch them.

I'd change the arrogant attitude he has sometimes. Mostly it's cute, but sometimes he can be a little TOO cocky. He's a professional arguer. He's in the car business as a manager and he knows how to argue any point. It's almost annoying that he's right more than he's wrong. But that is something I can't change. Hey, he's smart. I can't take that from him, nor would I.

But more than anything, I just love him and take him as he is. And he feels the same about me. It was part of our vows. "I come to you today just as I am, and I take you just as you are. Let's never change, but always love each other the way we do today."

So there you have it!!

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 10:59am
It was part of our vows. "I come to you today just as I am, and I take you just as you are. Let's never change, but always love each other the way we do today."

That is really sweet! I wouldn't change anything about my SO except maybe that i wish he has a bit more faith in himself. He says I give him the strength, so maybe he'll believe more in himself if he see's that I believe in him.

LIke I said, he thinks I am perfect, but I always think that no man can actually like my chest, because here in Germany they are all almost C's and Double D's. LOL. I don't do anything for it either. If I would excercise a bit, then I probably wouldn't be so miserable.

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:18pm

Physical feature: FIRMER breasts. LOL. I've long said I'd love breast enhancement and not too long ago he finally piped up and said "bigger isn't better. Your's are perfect. (they fit a C just fine) If you ever bothered to do anything, I wouldn't mind them a little firmer" So, yeah, I'd do it for ME in a heartbeat.


Attitude: He'd like me to be much more accepting of his tobacco habits than I am. I think I do well. I think he just needs to be ok with the fact that I NEVER EVER nag him to not do it, and he has space to do so. Our arrangement IMO is just fine. W/regards to the ciggy's, he does it outside. Doesn't complain. I don't mind or hide from it. W/the chew, he does it when I am not around mostly. When I take a bath, or am working in another room. What he doesn't like is when I get up and leave the room if I don't want to be around it. I feel that is my choice, just as chewing is his. I NEVER say anything, and if he takes my exercising my right to not be around it as me punishing him, then that is his problem.


However, I will say that the part I CAN and AM working on for him is watching my facial expression when I am not feeling particularly gracious. My "poker face" if you will. ;)

Becky

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:23pm

Mostly it's cute, but sometimes he can be a little TOO cocky. He's a professional arguer.


ROTFL!!! That's J to a "t". It's irritating because I can be sure of what I want to say, and I can be fairly certain that I am "right" but he's such a debater (could've been a lawyer) that I way too often feel like I lose. I hate that!!!! *stomping feet*

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 7:28pm
I know what you mean, girl! Shane is extremely intelligent (and I'm also quite smart) and we have opposite views on certain things so we tend to get into discussions. The good thing is that even though we might get heated about certain things, he never tells me I'm wrong. He just gives his side and I give mine and we usually have to agree to disagree unless either of us can give (and show) proof of what we're claiming. Otherwise, it's a draw. But he's such a good arguer, that I often feel like I'm wrong just because he knows so much and brings so much to the discussion.

But I'm not so annoyed by it because I could be with a complete moron and have nothing to talk about.

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 10:49am
I asked him this and well - he says - instead of dropping hints about what I want - just come out and say it- men hate guessing games --lol

Feature- he says nothing - hes just happy if he has me naked anytime hee hee - he said "men dont really care about that stuff- its the attitude that is most important- the fact that I am beautiful is an added plus" awww hes defintly scored points today ladies!!

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 11:59am

what would your significant other change? And would you change it for him?


Good question!

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 12:03pm
Physically...it would be to lose weight.

Attitude...that I would stop saying "I'm fine" when I'm not, physically.

Sherry<with 3 kids, 2 beautiful granddaughters

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 12:52pm
I think Shane too would like more down time.

One other thing I'd change is for him to be more concerned with the bills. He never asks. He knows I'm concerned enough for the two of us so he just leaves it to me to do it. It can be rather stressful. Also, he needs to stop misplacing his baseball caps. It's rather frustrating to have to help him search when he's mostly leaving them in his truck.

LOL! Crazy!

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